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Don Juan
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Excellent post, as usual. Kontrollerx
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DrD77 said:i think kontroller x is a dumbass. i think he has dealt with the wrong kind of woman because there are women out there that will love you genuinely. **** you kontroller x and stop trying to pollute our minds. why don't you guys just suck his d!ck.
slaog said:If you go crab fishing don't expect to catch a salmon. There are plenty of quality women out there but they're not going to be found in clubs late at night.
I also agree that if you go around not trusting women you'll end up with untrustworthy women.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Indeed and it works the other way too. Women who don't trust you are usually the ones not to be trusted themselves.Sandow said:Very true but I will never point the finger at someone else, I will almost always look at myself first. I believe people create their reality and future based on their actions. If she cheated or broke up with you then there was a reason for that. Perhaps there was an area in the relationship you are lackling in. Cause and Effect. or she's just a *****. lol. whatever we can talk about this forever....
Exactly what I was trying to say.slaog said:If you go crab fishing don't expect to catch a salmon. There are plenty of quality women out there but they're not going to be found in clubs late at night.
I also agree that if you go around not trusting women you'll end up with untrustworthy women.