"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KneghtRyder

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..frustrated at this same shyt happening twice ..

..this hb9 met at the train station..she's and exchange student...

she began by asking me for directions..so i do and then we part. I end up sitting at the table she just left .. later she comes back, and asks if her and her friend could join me ..but there are other desks there not tables I have the last one..she didn't have to be so upfront.

okay, she starts revealing tons of info along with her friend. shes from here..how she met her friend.shes talkative and friendly to me..and looking at me.. like a stupid i ask for her email instead of number.. and then she never responds to the email its been a day already.

This is the second time , same type of thing that has happened to me in the last sarging...
. I can't ****'n believe my luck. Why mE ??!!@! Is this shyt just bad luck or low IL , I have no idea what i did wrong.

Perhaps I could have raised her IL so that she's having fun, and not so dull boring convo so she'll reply to the email..

Perhaps I could have began by asking her for her number.

Perhaps I could have dressed a bit better..

Perhaps its my looks weren't so great for her..

I don't know !
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FIRST RULE OF AN EFFECTIVE SARGE!!! ASK FOR THE NUMBER!!!

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Hmm, you're not giving much details about the conversation, but it sounds like they clearly started with high IL, and you screwed something up.

The one bit of advice I can offer from what you wrote is get the phone number instead of (or in addition to) the e-mail.

Your clothes weren't the problem, she approached you twice. Also did you e-mail her right away? Better to probably wait at least a day or two.
 
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