zekko
Master Don Juan
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You sure about that?he didn't get me yesterday.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You sure about that?he didn't get me yesterday.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You took that seriously?You sure about that?
You took my reply seriously?You took that seriously?
Be aware most people have stronger side effects with their second dose. It's simply your immune system reacting. The day of my second dose I felt fine, the next day I was very fatigued with minor chills. I think I took about six naps, but I got all my business done. The day after that I felt great, probably better than I have in my entire life, no further reaction.Dad is getting his second dose next week. I've booked his appointment and will take him to the site and observe his reaction to this second dose.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
My second Pfizer shot I had afternoon fatigue. I took a nap. Sore arm for two days.Be aware most people have stronger side effects with their second dose. It's simply your immune system reacting. The day of my second dose I felt fine, the next day I was very fatigued with minor chills. I think I took about six naps, but I got all my business done. The day after that I felt great, probably better than I have in my entire life, no further reaction.
I slept like a rock the night after Round 2. Still a bit tired the next day. Some arm soreness but not bad at all.My second Pfizer shot I had afternoon fatigue. I took a nap. Sore arm for two days.
I had the Moderna. Yeah, I had the sore arm for a few days too. With the first one I had like a red hardened area at the site, kind of odd. Never had anything like that with the flu vaccine (that should please some of the more paranoid among you).My second Pfizer shot I had afternoon fatigue. I took a nap. Sore arm for two days.
I won’t be believing you since anecdotes aren’t factsI’ll let you know if there are!
The reason for vaccine hesitancy is because of anecdotal claims all over the place. If I just looked at the stats on paper then there would not be hesitancy as its all much less than decimental percentage points of a serious adverse reaction.I won’t be believing you since anecdotes aren’t facts
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah I was just making the point that if anecdotes aren’t facts (like he said) then he can’t expect anyone to believe his anecdotes or take them as facts.The reason for vaccine hesitancy is because of anecdotal claims all over the place. If I just looked at the stats on paper then there would not be hesitancy as its all much less than decimental percentage points of a serious adverse reaction.
Just the other day I bought an Occulus Quest 2. (Things suck with the virus, vaccine and boring work from home training, etc.... so I just got it) There is a documented 1:4000 chance of getting seizures from using the device but I dont think twice about it. Its probably more likely go develop seizures from using this device than getting a vaccine but yet I am comfortable with it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
With the delta variant, you don't need a "big enough whiff", it's hyper-transmissible, so only fleeting contact with someone or a little whiff of it will have the same impact. It made me freeze my summer bike routine because even outdoor transmission is risky with that variant without proper vaccination.I am on the fence about getting it. The delta variant has me a little concerned. I always said I would get it when it was very easy and convenient to do so, which is now. I still can't pull the trigger. I mean literally all I have to do is drive 5 minutes away to a multitude of places and walk in and get it.
I never get the flu shot. But the flu isn't as deadly as the rona. I'm pretty sure I was exposed to rona and fought it off pretty easily, but you just never know when you might get a big enough whiff of it that puts you down for the count.
One of the unlucky minority. How is she now? She can get a medical exemption for vaccine passes. They make it that even a medical exemption is better than being part of the unwilling and being blocked out, even if healthy!My step mother developed a problem with her leg for about two weeks after her first shot and had to start using a cane.
I am staying in the control group for now.
Then that is an acceptable parameter. The bright side is she is protected and has a worst case scenario of getting a bad cold.if she gets the variant. Best of all,.she can get a vaccine passport. Worth the price of admission. She is not unlucky then.Well she seemed to recover, and is walking fine now as far as I know. Just seemed odd. Started a day or two after her first shot. 2nd shot wiped her out for a few days, fatigue, but no other ill effects
I would say ultimately do what's comfortable for YOU.I am on the fence about getting it.
I never get the flu shot. But the flu isn't as deadly as the rona.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.