zekko
Master Don Juan
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You sure about that?he didn't get me yesterday.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You sure about that?he didn't get me yesterday.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You took that seriously?You sure about that?
You took my reply seriously?You took that seriously?
Be aware most people have stronger side effects with their second dose. It's simply your immune system reacting. The day of my second dose I felt fine, the next day I was very fatigued with minor chills. I think I took about six naps, but I got all my business done. The day after that I felt great, probably better than I have in my entire life, no further reaction.Dad is getting his second dose next week. I've booked his appointment and will take him to the site and observe his reaction to this second dose.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
My second Pfizer shot I had afternoon fatigue. I took a nap. Sore arm for two days.Be aware most people have stronger side effects with their second dose. It's simply your immune system reacting. The day of my second dose I felt fine, the next day I was very fatigued with minor chills. I think I took about six naps, but I got all my business done. The day after that I felt great, probably better than I have in my entire life, no further reaction.
I slept like a rock the night after Round 2. Still a bit tired the next day. Some arm soreness but not bad at all.My second Pfizer shot I had afternoon fatigue. I took a nap. Sore arm for two days.
I had the Moderna. Yeah, I had the sore arm for a few days too. With the first one I had like a red hardened area at the site, kind of odd. Never had anything like that with the flu vaccine (that should please some of the more paranoid among you).My second Pfizer shot I had afternoon fatigue. I took a nap. Sore arm for two days.
I won’t be believing you since anecdotes aren’t factsI’ll let you know if there are!
The reason for vaccine hesitancy is because of anecdotal claims all over the place. If I just looked at the stats on paper then there would not be hesitancy as its all much less than decimental percentage points of a serious adverse reaction.I won’t be believing you since anecdotes aren’t facts
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah I was just making the point that if anecdotes aren’t facts (like he said) then he can’t expect anyone to believe his anecdotes or take them as facts.The reason for vaccine hesitancy is because of anecdotal claims all over the place. If I just looked at the stats on paper then there would not be hesitancy as its all much less than decimental percentage points of a serious adverse reaction.
Just the other day I bought an Occulus Quest 2. (Things suck with the virus, vaccine and boring work from home training, etc.... so I just got it) There is a documented 1:4000 chance of getting seizures from using the device but I dont think twice about it. Its probably more likely go develop seizures from using this device than getting a vaccine but yet I am comfortable with it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
With the delta variant, you don't need a "big enough whiff", it's hyper-transmissible, so only fleeting contact with someone or a little whiff of it will have the same impact. It made me freeze my summer bike routine because even outdoor transmission is risky with that variant without proper vaccination.I am on the fence about getting it. The delta variant has me a little concerned. I always said I would get it when it was very easy and convenient to do so, which is now. I still can't pull the trigger. I mean literally all I have to do is drive 5 minutes away to a multitude of places and walk in and get it.
I never get the flu shot. But the flu isn't as deadly as the rona. I'm pretty sure I was exposed to rona and fought it off pretty easily, but you just never know when you might get a big enough whiff of it that puts you down for the count.
One of the unlucky minority. How is she now? She can get a medical exemption for vaccine passes. They make it that even a medical exemption is better than being part of the unwilling and being blocked out, even if healthy!My step mother developed a problem with her leg for about two weeks after her first shot and had to start using a cane.
I am staying in the control group for now.
Then that is an acceptable parameter. The bright side is she is protected and has a worst case scenario of getting a bad cold.if she gets the variant. Best of all,.she can get a vaccine passport. Worth the price of admission. She is not unlucky then.Well she seemed to recover, and is walking fine now as far as I know. Just seemed odd. Started a day or two after her first shot. 2nd shot wiped her out for a few days, fatigue, but no other ill effects
I would say ultimately do what's comfortable for YOU.I am on the fence about getting it.
I never get the flu shot. But the flu isn't as deadly as the rona.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.