"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Fasted hot/ cold I have ever seen

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I swear in my earlier career I was the king of having a chick go from hot to cold. While this has mostly gone away, i still find myself frustrated from time to time. Take the case that happened last night.

Last week I meet a cute chick at the bar. I got her number and she seemed very excited to get my number. I called her the next day, and we chilled for a few hours. it went well. she seemed to have a good time and wanted to hang out again. Weds I tried to hang, but it didn't work out and she even counter offered. Cool. Thursday we both were going to head out with our respective groups of friends, so we meet up. After meeting up, i am literally playing tonsil hockey than...suddenly she goes to the bathroom, says she has to go, and leaves without a trace. I shoot her some messages to see whats up, nothing. Suffice to say I didn't press the issue, and probably will end up deleting the number.

so what the hell gives? How can you get a chick who is prime to fvck, to go so 180. Several other instances have gone the same way. A chick seems ( key word) interested, I get the number, than she doesn't want anything to do with me.

I love the single life, but my god this is becoming work. Work ain't fun! Gotta step it up. Last weekend I got 5 phone numbers, and it seemed 2 would have worked out. Now its 0 fer 5. sheesh!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You might be a bad kisser. Or if you're not bad then she personally didn't like the way you were doing it.

I don't know that's just a guess.
 
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Don't blame yourself. My guess is that she went to the bathroom to check up to see if it's all good & ready to go down there, but something went wrong. Hence she left suddenly cos she was embarrassed.
 
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Jitterbug said:
Don't blame yourself. My guess is that she went to the bathroom to check up to see if it's all good & ready to go down there, but something went wrong. Hence she left suddenly cos she was embarrassed.
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id normally agree, but she still hasn't gotten back to me. going...going...goonne! Ive made it a habit to not chase. I'd be shocked if she ever contacts me again.

got two numbers last night...both from chicks with boyfriends. more FAIL!

My all wheel drive is running a few flats here...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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update: turns out someone spiked her and her friends drink. they both experienced weird symptoms at the same exact time, so she ( wisely) bailed on the situation. She apologized today for bailing too, which is a good sign. The lesson here is the prevalence of date rape drugs on the bar/ club scene, and probably how many 'men' use them to get women. Sad that people can't focus on improvement and work hard for what they want, but that is reality.
 
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synergy1 said:
update: turns out someone spiked her and her friends drink. they both experienced weird symptoms at the same exact time, so she ( wisely) bailed on the situation. She apologized today for bailing too, which is a good sign. The lesson here is the prevalence of date rape drugs on the bar/ club scene, and probably how many 'men' use them to get women. Sad that people can't focus on improvement and work hard for what they want, but that is reality.
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Here's the thing I don't understand about date rape drugs...

So a girl's at the club with her friends....I spike a girl's drink...and then what? I just toss her over my shoulder and carry her out the bar...and no one notices?

That's why I always thought the date rape drug was a bit of an urban myth. I know it exists. And I've heard stories of girls going on DATES with a guy and getting drugged. But in a crowded club...if some dude tried that on one of my girl friends, my group would be aware of the change in her demeanor. And we'd definitely be aware of the creepy dude trying to drag her out of the bar.

I think it happens. But I think it's overblown.
 
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It never happened.

Girl A: I have a headache.

Girl B: I have a headache.

Girl C: I heard something on the news about date rape drugs.

A, B and C: OMG!!!!!!!!!!

Morons.
 
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lol

That actually makes a lot of sense. After all, a woman's victimhood is sacrosanct. No one would ever dare question it. We're all supposed to be motivated to get on our white horse after hearing such a story and want to come to her rescue. And if we do dare question her improbable story, then we won't "get any." lol
 
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