I've noticed a lot of girls hide their true personalities until you get to know them better. Is this the ***** shield happening? Rarely will I meet a genuine personality at face value. It really annoys me since you're not getting what hoped for. They should be themselves. I'm referring to 18-20 yr old females btw.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
False personality
- Thread starter noneother
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Most girls are like that.....noneother said:
There are always added personality traits that you just cannot stand about her...
Some like to B!tch...some are BIG!!! flirts...some are boring, but seem fun....it's all about the surprise...In rare cases do you find someone for exactly who they are.
I've discovered that some girls are like that, while soem girls are pretty straight up.
I don't really think it's that disappointing though.. I mean, people have ego's to protect ya kno? so it's a natural way of trying to preserve their ego. Your job as a DJ is to show them that they don't have to put up a front while you're around, because you appreciate them for who they are.
Then they'll love you to no end
I don't really think it's that disappointing though.. I mean, people have ego's to protect ya kno? so it's a natural way of trying to preserve their ego. Your job as a DJ is to show them that they don't have to put up a front while you're around, because you appreciate them for who they are.
Then they'll love you to no end
What you need to understand is that attractive girls get hit on almost every day. Mystery talks about this in his DVDs. Being generous, he says that from the age of 18 to 24, the average attractive girl has been hit on thousands of times by nice guys.
The way they get rid of a nice guy's "barrage of bore" is to act *****y.
"Hey, nice shoes"
"I have a boyfriend"
"What's your name?"
"Go away."
They don't do it because they really ARE *****es. Most girls are very nice people. The reason they do it is because IT WORKS. They would rather have boring nice guys believe that they're *****es than to have to constantly deal with them.
The way they get rid of a nice guy's "barrage of bore" is to act *****y.
"Hey, nice shoes"
"I have a boyfriend"
"What's your name?"
"Go away."
They don't do it because they really ARE *****es. Most girls are very nice people. The reason they do it is because IT WORKS. They would rather have boring nice guys believe that they're *****es than to have to constantly deal with them.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
it's really no different then how guys are also, with the 'hey,whats up bro' high five,sock on the shoulder ,macho guy act.
or the 'cool guy' act ,whats up..daps, whatever..i think everyone has a social face and a home face, where they kinda just lounge around.it's not a 'false' personality, it's just another way of reacting to different situations and dealing with people. imagine if 1000 girls were coming up to you all day and it felt as if they wanted something from you and somewhat ingenuine and creepy..would'nt you get creeped out also? would'nt you have to figure out a way to just get rid of them?
or the 'cool guy' act ,whats up..daps, whatever..i think everyone has a social face and a home face, where they kinda just lounge around.it's not a 'false' personality, it's just another way of reacting to different situations and dealing with people. imagine if 1000 girls were coming up to you all day and it felt as if they wanted something from you and somewhat ingenuine and creepy..would'nt you get creeped out also? would'nt you have to figure out a way to just get rid of them?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is it even possible for a 18-20 year old woman to know her true personality?noneother said:
my ex (21) left me for a much older, wealthy, gent who she claimed she could imagine marrying/settling down with. well too bad for her, she can be the puppet housewife without knowing who she is. in such a hurry to grow up...resilient said:
But anyway, some people go through life never realizing who they really are, and some do. thats life for you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i think that setting up strong preferences creates a strong identity, you know what you like and you know what you don't like.Strong opinions and knowing where you stand and which side you are on,you can kinda sense how people are by their preferences alone.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
She'll probably need a map or else she'd get lost... Again...resilient said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i call it the "salesperson".
everyone has a salesperson inside them, and after you get comfy in a relationship or get to know someone really well, they let the salesperson have the day off and you see them for what they are.
everyone has a salesperson inside them, and after you get comfy in a relationship or get to know someone really well, they let the salesperson have the day off and you see them for what they are.
MightyMate
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They just think they are somethign special and making up small things to be big.