I've noticed a lot of girls hide their true personalities until you get to know them better. Is this the ***** shield happening? Rarely will I meet a genuine personality at face value. It really annoys me since you're not getting what hoped for. They should be themselves. I'm referring to 18-20 yr old females btw.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
False personality
- Thread starter noneother
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Most girls are like that.....noneother said:
There are always added personality traits that you just cannot stand about her...
Some like to B!tch...some are BIG!!! flirts...some are boring, but seem fun....it's all about the surprise...In rare cases do you find someone for exactly who they are.
I've discovered that some girls are like that, while soem girls are pretty straight up.
I don't really think it's that disappointing though.. I mean, people have ego's to protect ya kno? so it's a natural way of trying to preserve their ego. Your job as a DJ is to show them that they don't have to put up a front while you're around, because you appreciate them for who they are.
Then they'll love you to no end
I don't really think it's that disappointing though.. I mean, people have ego's to protect ya kno? so it's a natural way of trying to preserve their ego. Your job as a DJ is to show them that they don't have to put up a front while you're around, because you appreciate them for who they are.
Then they'll love you to no end
What you need to understand is that attractive girls get hit on almost every day. Mystery talks about this in his DVDs. Being generous, he says that from the age of 18 to 24, the average attractive girl has been hit on thousands of times by nice guys.
The way they get rid of a nice guy's "barrage of bore" is to act *****y.
"Hey, nice shoes"
"I have a boyfriend"
"What's your name?"
"Go away."
They don't do it because they really ARE *****es. Most girls are very nice people. The reason they do it is because IT WORKS. They would rather have boring nice guys believe that they're *****es than to have to constantly deal with them.
The way they get rid of a nice guy's "barrage of bore" is to act *****y.
"Hey, nice shoes"
"I have a boyfriend"
"What's your name?"
"Go away."
They don't do it because they really ARE *****es. Most girls are very nice people. The reason they do it is because IT WORKS. They would rather have boring nice guys believe that they're *****es than to have to constantly deal with them.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
it's really no different then how guys are also, with the 'hey,whats up bro' high five,sock on the shoulder ,macho guy act.
or the 'cool guy' act ,whats up..daps, whatever..i think everyone has a social face and a home face, where they kinda just lounge around.it's not a 'false' personality, it's just another way of reacting to different situations and dealing with people. imagine if 1000 girls were coming up to you all day and it felt as if they wanted something from you and somewhat ingenuine and creepy..would'nt you get creeped out also? would'nt you have to figure out a way to just get rid of them?
or the 'cool guy' act ,whats up..daps, whatever..i think everyone has a social face and a home face, where they kinda just lounge around.it's not a 'false' personality, it's just another way of reacting to different situations and dealing with people. imagine if 1000 girls were coming up to you all day and it felt as if they wanted something from you and somewhat ingenuine and creepy..would'nt you get creeped out also? would'nt you have to figure out a way to just get rid of them?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is it even possible for a 18-20 year old woman to know her true personality?noneother said:
my ex (21) left me for a much older, wealthy, gent who she claimed she could imagine marrying/settling down with. well too bad for her, she can be the puppet housewife without knowing who she is. in such a hurry to grow up...resilient said:
But anyway, some people go through life never realizing who they really are, and some do. thats life for you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i think that setting up strong preferences creates a strong identity, you know what you like and you know what you don't like.Strong opinions and knowing where you stand and which side you are on,you can kinda sense how people are by their preferences alone.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
She'll probably need a map or else she'd get lost... Again...resilient said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i call it the "salesperson".
everyone has a salesperson inside them, and after you get comfy in a relationship or get to know someone really well, they let the salesperson have the day off and you see them for what they are.
everyone has a salesperson inside them, and after you get comfy in a relationship or get to know someone really well, they let the salesperson have the day off and you see them for what they are.
MightyMate
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 9, 2005
- Messages
- 1,400
- Reaction score
- 2
They just think they are somethign special and making up small things to be big.