I've noticed a lot of girls hide their true personalities until you get to know them better. Is this the ***** shield happening? Rarely will I meet a genuine personality at face value. It really annoys me since you're not getting what hoped for. They should be themselves. I'm referring to 18-20 yr old females btw.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
False personality
- Thread starter noneother
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most girls are like that.....noneother said:
There are always added personality traits that you just cannot stand about her...
Some like to B!tch...some are BIG!!! flirts...some are boring, but seem fun....it's all about the surprise...In rare cases do you find someone for exactly who they are.
I've discovered that some girls are like that, while soem girls are pretty straight up.
I don't really think it's that disappointing though.. I mean, people have ego's to protect ya kno? so it's a natural way of trying to preserve their ego. Your job as a DJ is to show them that they don't have to put up a front while you're around, because you appreciate them for who they are.
Then they'll love you to no end
I don't really think it's that disappointing though.. I mean, people have ego's to protect ya kno? so it's a natural way of trying to preserve their ego. Your job as a DJ is to show them that they don't have to put up a front while you're around, because you appreciate them for who they are.
Then they'll love you to no end
What you need to understand is that attractive girls get hit on almost every day. Mystery talks about this in his DVDs. Being generous, he says that from the age of 18 to 24, the average attractive girl has been hit on thousands of times by nice guys.
The way they get rid of a nice guy's "barrage of bore" is to act *****y.
"Hey, nice shoes"
"I have a boyfriend"
"What's your name?"
"Go away."
They don't do it because they really ARE *****es. Most girls are very nice people. The reason they do it is because IT WORKS. They would rather have boring nice guys believe that they're *****es than to have to constantly deal with them.
The way they get rid of a nice guy's "barrage of bore" is to act *****y.
"Hey, nice shoes"
"I have a boyfriend"
"What's your name?"
"Go away."
They don't do it because they really ARE *****es. Most girls are very nice people. The reason they do it is because IT WORKS. They would rather have boring nice guys believe that they're *****es than to have to constantly deal with them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
it's really no different then how guys are also, with the 'hey,whats up bro' high five,sock on the shoulder ,macho guy act.
or the 'cool guy' act ,whats up..daps, whatever..i think everyone has a social face and a home face, where they kinda just lounge around.it's not a 'false' personality, it's just another way of reacting to different situations and dealing with people. imagine if 1000 girls were coming up to you all day and it felt as if they wanted something from you and somewhat ingenuine and creepy..would'nt you get creeped out also? would'nt you have to figure out a way to just get rid of them?
or the 'cool guy' act ,whats up..daps, whatever..i think everyone has a social face and a home face, where they kinda just lounge around.it's not a 'false' personality, it's just another way of reacting to different situations and dealing with people. imagine if 1000 girls were coming up to you all day and it felt as if they wanted something from you and somewhat ingenuine and creepy..would'nt you get creeped out also? would'nt you have to figure out a way to just get rid of them?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is it even possible for a 18-20 year old woman to know her true personality?noneother said:
my ex (21) left me for a much older, wealthy, gent who she claimed she could imagine marrying/settling down with. well too bad for her, she can be the puppet housewife without knowing who she is. in such a hurry to grow up...resilient said:
But anyway, some people go through life never realizing who they really are, and some do. thats life for you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i think that setting up strong preferences creates a strong identity, you know what you like and you know what you don't like.Strong opinions and knowing where you stand and which side you are on,you can kinda sense how people are by their preferences alone.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
She'll probably need a map or else she'd get lost... Again...resilient said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i call it the "salesperson".
everyone has a salesperson inside them, and after you get comfy in a relationship or get to know someone really well, they let the salesperson have the day off and you see them for what they are.
everyone has a salesperson inside them, and after you get comfy in a relationship or get to know someone really well, they let the salesperson have the day off and you see them for what they are.
MightyMate
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They just think they are somethign special and making up small things to be big.