“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Factors that get a man bumped down on the looks scale

GoodMan32

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I mentioned on another thread that, as a result of being on the spectrum, my looks rating effectively gets bumped down a few points (In other words, even though I'm a 7, I largely get treated like I'm a 4).

In some cases, my social awkwardness even gets me viewed as a 1.

Another poster recommended I start a thread about the topic. Might as well.

So here's the purpose of the thread: It isn't just a spectrum thread. It's a thread to discuss any factor that gets a man bumped down from his actual looks score.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I mentioned on another thread that, as a result of being on the spectrum, my looks rating effectively gets bumped down a few points (In other words, even though I'm a 7, I largely get treated like I'm a 4).

In some cases, my social awkwardness even gets me viewed as a 1.

Another poster recommended I start a thread about the topic. Might as well.

So here's the purpose of the thread: It isn't just a spectrum thread. It's a thread to discuss any factor that gets a man bumped down from his actual looks score.
I disagree. Based on your feedback of how women are treating you, you are not being treated as a sub-5, but as a normie. You have very healthy interactions with the opposite sex. I actually envy you. You don't have the right to complain here. If you do, then trade places with me and then you'll experience how a sub-5 is treated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I mentioned on another thread that, as a result of being on the spectrum, my looks rating effectively gets bumped down a few points (In other words, even though I'm a 7, I largely get treated like I'm a 4).

In some cases, my social awkwardness even gets me viewed as a 1.

Another poster recommended I start a thread about the topic. Might as well.

So here's the purpose of the thread: It isn't just a spectrum thread. It's a thread to discuss any factor that gets a man bumped down from his actual looks score.

 

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From my own experience,
height and body harmony
face: smile (white straight teeth) - eyes - hair

but also, frame.
The more I grow, the more I do understand there are people which holds more power.
Those people are persusor, and can be attractive.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Already been mentioned but it's amazing how few men know how to dress. Obviously being in shape helps you look better in anything, but take a look at what fashionable men are wearing and try to incorporate some of that into your wardrobe. And I don't mean a 10k watch either.
 

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I don't think a lot of men know what is or is not attractive to women.
I agree. Sometimes it's obvious, some characteristics are obviously attractive, sometimes it's not. I think most of us have looked at a guy and been mystified about what is bringing women to his table (It's like "Really? THAT guy?"). We're not women, we can't see everything in the same lens they do.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Balding. -2 points easily.
This may be different from the intentional hairstyle change.

There have been times when I had my hair trimmed semi-bald (to reduce heat and scalp itching), and girls around me, as far as I can remember, seem to like it more than when my hair's longer, or at least enjoy it and pay me much more attention. I guess because it's new and different, and no one usually does it, but feel free to discuss.
 
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The thread caption is perhaps little silly as people have pointed out?
But yeah, looks alone are not enough. You really need game too.

And if you are on spectrum and are awkward socially, then just start putting effort into learning social skills.
Fixing your weakness will be immensely valuable for your whole life. Basic social skills are quite transferrable between pick up and other social settings like work/business too.

Positive side to using pick up to learn those is it's fast and efficient way to get the needed reps in. Perhaps, not the most easiest for your ego though..
 

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I've heard the typical woman rates 80% of men below average.

As for my 7 rating, I didn't rate myself a 7. An AI looks rater did. I trust AI looks raters more than websites with live raters (because individual bias, as well as straight men rating other men, impacts your score on the typical looks rating website)
 

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If I understand correctly, that's not looks.

Again, not looks.


You have different issues you're trying to deal with here, and frankly, very fixable.
I know social awkwardness and being on the spectrum aren't looks.

My point is they cause a woman to subconsciously rank me lower than my actual looks score.

I say this because I've had to date/bang some fatties before (solely because I had few to no other options).

Also, when I was in high school, there was a feature on Facebook where your Facebook friends could rate your looks. A female classmate rated me a 1. I guarantee she never even gave much thought to my actual looks. Her 1 rating was more a rating of my social standing at school (which reinforces my point: being on the spectrum/socially awkward can cause a broad to view you as unattractive no matter what your actual looks are)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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