“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Factors that get a man bumped down on the looks scale

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I mentioned on another thread that, as a result of being on the spectrum, my looks rating effectively gets bumped down a few points (In other words, even though I'm a 7, I largely get treated like I'm a 4).

In some cases, my social awkwardness even gets me viewed as a 1.

Another poster recommended I start a thread about the topic. Might as well.

So here's the purpose of the thread: It isn't just a spectrum thread. It's a thread to discuss any factor that gets a man bumped down from his actual looks score.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I mentioned on another thread that, as a result of being on the spectrum, my looks rating effectively gets bumped down a few points (In other words, even though I'm a 7, I largely get treated like I'm a 4).

In some cases, my social awkwardness even gets me viewed as a 1.

Another poster recommended I start a thread about the topic. Might as well.

So here's the purpose of the thread: It isn't just a spectrum thread. It's a thread to discuss any factor that gets a man bumped down from his actual looks score.
I disagree. Based on your feedback of how women are treating you, you are not being treated as a sub-5, but as a normie. You have very healthy interactions with the opposite sex. I actually envy you. You don't have the right to complain here. If you do, then trade places with me and then you'll experience how a sub-5 is treated.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I mentioned on another thread that, as a result of being on the spectrum, my looks rating effectively gets bumped down a few points (In other words, even though I'm a 7, I largely get treated like I'm a 4).

In some cases, my social awkwardness even gets me viewed as a 1.

Another poster recommended I start a thread about the topic. Might as well.

So here's the purpose of the thread: It isn't just a spectrum thread. It's a thread to discuss any factor that gets a man bumped down from his actual looks score.

 

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From my own experience,
height and body harmony
face: smile (white straight teeth) - eyes - hair

but also, frame.
The more I grow, the more I do understand there are people which holds more power.
Those people are persusor, and can be attractive.
 
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Already been mentioned but it's amazing how few men know how to dress. Obviously being in shape helps you look better in anything, but take a look at what fashionable men are wearing and try to incorporate some of that into your wardrobe. And I don't mean a 10k watch either.
 

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I don't think a lot of men know what is or is not attractive to women.
I agree. Sometimes it's obvious, some characteristics are obviously attractive, sometimes it's not. I think most of us have looked at a guy and been mystified about what is bringing women to his table (It's like "Really? THAT guy?"). We're not women, we can't see everything in the same lens they do.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Balding. -2 points easily.
This may be different from the intentional hairstyle change.

There have been times when I had my hair trimmed semi-bald (to reduce heat and scalp itching), and girls around me, as far as I can remember, seem to like it more than when my hair's longer, or at least enjoy it and pay me much more attention. I guess because it's new and different, and no one usually does it, but feel free to discuss.
 
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The thread caption is perhaps little silly as people have pointed out?
But yeah, looks alone are not enough. You really need game too.

And if you are on spectrum and are awkward socially, then just start putting effort into learning social skills.
Fixing your weakness will be immensely valuable for your whole life. Basic social skills are quite transferrable between pick up and other social settings like work/business too.

Positive side to using pick up to learn those is it's fast and efficient way to get the needed reps in. Perhaps, not the most easiest for your ego though..
 

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I've heard the typical woman rates 80% of men below average.

As for my 7 rating, I didn't rate myself a 7. An AI looks rater did. I trust AI looks raters more than websites with live raters (because individual bias, as well as straight men rating other men, impacts your score on the typical looks rating website)
 

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If I understand correctly, that's not looks.

Again, not looks.


You have different issues you're trying to deal with here, and frankly, very fixable.
I know social awkwardness and being on the spectrum aren't looks.

My point is they cause a woman to subconsciously rank me lower than my actual looks score.

I say this because I've had to date/bang some fatties before (solely because I had few to no other options).

Also, when I was in high school, there was a feature on Facebook where your Facebook friends could rate your looks. A female classmate rated me a 1. I guarantee she never even gave much thought to my actual looks. Her 1 rating was more a rating of my social standing at school (which reinforces my point: being on the spectrum/socially awkward can cause a broad to view you as unattractive no matter what your actual looks are)
 
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