"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aesthetix29

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Morning brahs, Okay for whatever's going on in my life right now ... And if your following my other thread, I've woke up this morning gone straight on Facebook, and just thought to myself this is sad so I've now deleted myself off it. I'm trying to self improve by focusing on my business and quitting drugs.

My question is will not being on Facebook help improve my life? (Stupid question I know but I'm trying to do the exact opposite, to what I've done for so many years) call it a kind of experiment.

The way I see it I'm stuck in a rut at the bottom and there's only one way I can go ... Right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MrWood

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I've been on FB since it was beta, it is a part of my lifestyle, but not my relationships. It actually keeps me quite grounded, except now I do have a oneitis ex as a friend. That said, I have not changed my behavior but my usage comes and goes anyway.

IMO, it depends on how and why you have used it, does it help you in anyway?, does it harm you?
 

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Well let's put it this way .. It doesn't help my life. I just see it as a distraction ... It serves no purpose to me really, all my family are local. It's gone away so I'll see how I get on pal. Cheers
 

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There is no facebook is good or bad answers. I have friends who live all over the world and facebook is great for easily keeping in contact with them at all times throughout moving and new phones etc. It also lets me see how they are doing if I'm too busy to call or chat. I almost never post anymore and I figure if you're getting distracted by facebook, facebook isn't the problem. It's your mindset.

But whatever helps you. I don't think not using facebook can hurt.
 
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