Give meaningful eye contact while speaking, reward eye contact when listening. This bit of advice is working from me. I had a problem before where I would stare at a girl while she was talking and she would stop wanting to talk. What do you guys think about this?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oh yeah, I love doing eye contacts.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
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no need for eye contact when you can stare at her tits.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
animebuck2
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dude do u really think that always works?
dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?lockout said:
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It doesnt matter. Just be direct. I saw you said in another post that you should just tell her your feelings. Why not just go show her you're interested? I mean really SHOW her you're interested. Attraction is not logical, so talking about it won't be favourable.animebuck2 said:dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, would it be weird if a girl saw everything u guys wrote on here?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, do u think it would be weird if a girl saw everything u say on here?
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Obviously, but I'd love it; unless I was dating her. This is a great place with revolutionary ideas and information.animebuck2 said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LearningSlowly
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I wouldn't care if she was isolated and couldn't tell everyone. She'd probably like me more for it, I think I approach this pretty ethically.animebuck2 said:
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well actually.....im a girl......^///^
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I wondered when I get random flakes, do I come up on google searches here because of the copious times I've post my real name or others have referred to me by it?
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Wanna be my girlfriend? I really need one to feel complete.animebuck2 said:
Honestly though, what do you think of this place?
I'm having such a hard time to not pull copious amounts of sexist jokes.
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You and me bothNorwegianDJ said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I'm sensitive so no worries here giiiirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllfriend
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
LearningSlowly
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Damn it, beat me to the girlfriend question. I hope another girl comes here, maybe I'll find my soulmate someday.NorwegianDJ said:
animebuck2
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wow ^-^ didnt know id get that kind of response from tellin that im a girl.....but actually......im not the prettiest girl....so if u saw me then who knows if yall would be sayin that
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All girls are prettier than my hand.
to be fair, most are.
to be fair, most are.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.