Give meaningful eye contact while speaking, reward eye contact when listening. This bit of advice is working from me. I had a problem before where I would stare at a girl while she was talking and she would stop wanting to talk. What do you guys think about this?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh yeah, I love doing eye contacts.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
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no need for eye contact when you can stare at her tits.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
animebuck2
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dude do u really think that always works?
dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?lockout said:
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It doesnt matter. Just be direct. I saw you said in another post that you should just tell her your feelings. Why not just go show her you're interested? I mean really SHOW her you're interested. Attraction is not logical, so talking about it won't be favourable.animebuck2 said:dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, would it be weird if a girl saw everything u guys wrote on here?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, do u think it would be weird if a girl saw everything u say on here?
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Obviously, but I'd love it; unless I was dating her. This is a great place with revolutionary ideas and information.animebuck2 said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
LearningSlowly
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I wouldn't care if she was isolated and couldn't tell everyone. She'd probably like me more for it, I think I approach this pretty ethically.animebuck2 said:
animebuck2
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well actually.....im a girl......^///^
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I wondered when I get random flakes, do I come up on google searches here because of the copious times I've post my real name or others have referred to me by it?
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Wanna be my girlfriend? I really need one to feel complete.animebuck2 said:
Honestly though, what do you think of this place?
I'm having such a hard time to not pull copious amounts of sexist jokes.
BPH
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You and me bothNorwegianDJ said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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I'm sensitive so no worries here giiiirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllfriend
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
LearningSlowly
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Damn it, beat me to the girlfriend question. I hope another girl comes here, maybe I'll find my soulmate someday.NorwegianDJ said:
animebuck2
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wow ^-^ didnt know id get that kind of response from tellin that im a girl.....but actually......im not the prettiest girl....so if u saw me then who knows if yall would be sayin that
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All girls are prettier than my hand.
to be fair, most are.
to be fair, most are.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.