Give meaningful eye contact while speaking, reward eye contact when listening. This bit of advice is working from me. I had a problem before where I would stare at a girl while she was talking and she would stop wanting to talk. What do you guys think about this?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Oh yeah, I love doing eye contacts.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
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no need for eye contact when you can stare at her tits.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
animebuck2
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dude do u really think that always works?
dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?lockout said:
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It doesnt matter. Just be direct. I saw you said in another post that you should just tell her your feelings. Why not just go show her you're interested? I mean really SHOW her you're interested. Attraction is not logical, so talking about it won't be favourable.animebuck2 said:dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, would it be weird if a girl saw everything u guys wrote on here?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, do u think it would be weird if a girl saw everything u say on here?
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Obviously, but I'd love it; unless I was dating her. This is a great place with revolutionary ideas and information.animebuck2 said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LearningSlowly
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I wouldn't care if she was isolated and couldn't tell everyone. She'd probably like me more for it, I think I approach this pretty ethically.animebuck2 said:
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well actually.....im a girl......^///^
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I wondered when I get random flakes, do I come up on google searches here because of the copious times I've post my real name or others have referred to me by it?
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Wanna be my girlfriend? I really need one to feel complete.animebuck2 said:
Honestly though, what do you think of this place?
I'm having such a hard time to not pull copious amounts of sexist jokes.
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You and me bothNorwegianDJ said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I'm sensitive so no worries here giiiirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllfriend
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
LearningSlowly
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Damn it, beat me to the girlfriend question. I hope another girl comes here, maybe I'll find my soulmate someday.NorwegianDJ said:
animebuck2
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wow ^-^ didnt know id get that kind of response from tellin that im a girl.....but actually......im not the prettiest girl....so if u saw me then who knows if yall would be sayin that
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All girls are prettier than my hand.
to be fair, most are.
to be fair, most are.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.