Give meaningful eye contact while speaking, reward eye contact when listening. This bit of advice is working from me. I had a problem before where I would stare at a girl while she was talking and she would stop wanting to talk. What do you guys think about this?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Oh yeah, I love doing eye contacts.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
Across the room, sometimes I wait for her to look first. When I know she's looking at me, I look at her. She will probably look away. If she looks at you again quickly, then look away, then look at you again, she's probably nervous. I did a smile at this point, and she responded pretty well.
And for conversations, I think eye contact is good for putting more tension. Let's say she says something that could be related to sex somehow (let's say she loves to swallow bananas), I'll say something like : Ohhh, I see... Then I'd hold eye contact for a while and maybe move my eyebrows, then do a slow and warm smile. She might start laughing and say sometimes like : What?! XD I think that doing a big grinny smile is too friendly.
Anyway, I think I'm getting too technical. Do whatever you feel is the best for you and just be natural.
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no need for eye contact when you can stare at her tits.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
animebuck2
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dude do u really think that always works?
dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?lockout said:
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It doesnt matter. Just be direct. I saw you said in another post that you should just tell her your feelings. Why not just go show her you're interested? I mean really SHOW her you're interested. Attraction is not logical, so talking about it won't be favourable.animebuck2 said:dude do u really think that always works? wat if they dont know where ur looking or arnt paying enough attention?...... wat if they dont wanna seem too interested when they really are so they dont look at you the entire time?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, would it be weird if a girl saw everything u guys wrote on here?
animebuck2
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dude tell me somethin, do u think it would be weird if a girl saw everything u say on here?
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Obviously, but I'd love it; unless I was dating her. This is a great place with revolutionary ideas and information.animebuck2 said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
LearningSlowly
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I wouldn't care if she was isolated and couldn't tell everyone. She'd probably like me more for it, I think I approach this pretty ethically.animebuck2 said:
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well actually.....im a girl......^///^
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I wondered when I get random flakes, do I come up on google searches here because of the copious times I've post my real name or others have referred to me by it?
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Wanna be my girlfriend? I really need one to feel complete.animebuck2 said:
Honestly though, what do you think of this place?
I'm having such a hard time to not pull copious amounts of sexist jokes.
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You and me bothNorwegianDJ said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I'm sensitive so no worries here giiiirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllfriend
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
Besides, you're obviously so modern, posting here. I don't know many houses with a computer in the kitchen.
LearningSlowly
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Damn it, beat me to the girlfriend question. I hope another girl comes here, maybe I'll find my soulmate someday.NorwegianDJ said:
animebuck2
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wow ^-^ didnt know id get that kind of response from tellin that im a girl.....but actually......im not the prettiest girl....so if u saw me then who knows if yall would be sayin that
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All girls are prettier than my hand.
to be fair, most are.
to be fair, most are.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.