I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
1) As for my face, most ppl do say that I looked naturally mean/angry when they havent met me yet. But its quite opposite to my normal mood.[S]alvatore said:Are you saying that you always have an upset/angry/pissed off/upset look on your face? Or that your intentions are way too obvious when gaming girls?
You have to get your vibe sorted.Rebound Material said:1) As for my face, most ppl do say that I looked naturally mean/angry when they havent met me yet
Probably. I think its also the fact that im asian that adds to it. Asians are known to look kinda pissed due to the chinky eyes. But besides that, I know for a fact that I cant hide my emotions well at all....Technical1 said:You have to get your vibe sorted.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Rebound Material said:See theres one thing about seperating logical action to emotional...but my face says ALL that I mean. When I get upset or offended ppl can tell that im pissed and Im not aware that im showing it. Same goes for when Im down or really bothered. I persoally think this is equivalent to not having a good poker face = They know if you have a good hand or not, and they would know how to beat you. Anyone else have this problem?