Well, last night was the first time I sersly hooked up with a girl. A little late?, 16?, yea it is, but not too long ago I was wbafc. So anyway, I never really liked this girl, she was just my friend that hit on me. Eh well I went over her house and hooked up and cuddled with her for a while. Wow first time yay, but the problem is, I feel way too attracted to this girl now and I don't want to be, I feel like I have oneits, I woke up, feeling like sh!t, looking like sh!t, and beyond emotional. I'm lost, help.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
?Extreme Oneitis After First Hook up?
- Thread starter SexinEar
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
INXS
Don Juan
Go meet new women..NOW. This is the BEST cure.
She was your first one, it's just a normal reaction. If you are starting to like her there is no reason to deny yourself that situation. If she is no quality then count on the fact that you will come to your senses once the "holy ****', i just busted a nut" feeling fades.
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It's your first time, so it's normal for you to feel this way. If you hooked up with another girl the following day, and another one the day after that, you wouldn't feel so 'attached' to this one.SexinEar said:Well, last night was the first time I sersly hooked up with a girl. A little late?, 16?, yea it is, but not too long ago I was wbafc. So anyway, I never really liked this girl, she was just my friend that hit on me. Eh well I went over her house and hooked up and cuddled with her for a while. Wow first time yay, but the problem is, I feel way too attracted to this girl now and I don't want to be, I feel like I have oneits, I woke up, feeling like sh!t, looking like sh!t, and beyond emotional. I'm lost, help.
Use some of that confidence you now have to meet other girls. Never, ever get 'to' attached to any 'one' girl.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LMFAO>>> this is what just happened, the horrible oneitis feeling lasted a couple hours, you couldn't be more right.******* said:If she is no quality then count on the fact that you will come to your senses once the "holy ****', i just busted a nut" feeling fades.