Well, last night was the first time I sersly hooked up with a girl. A little late?, 16?, yea it is, but not too long ago I was wbafc. So anyway, I never really liked this girl, she was just my friend that hit on me. Eh well I went over her house and hooked up and cuddled with her for a while. Wow first time yay, but the problem is, I feel way too attracted to this girl now and I don't want to be, I feel like I have oneits, I woke up, feeling like sh!t, looking like sh!t, and beyond emotional. I'm lost, help.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
?Extreme Oneitis After First Hook up?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Go meet new women..NOW. This is the BEST cure.
She was your first one, it's just a normal reaction. If you are starting to like her there is no reason to deny yourself that situation. If she is no quality then count on the fact that you will come to your senses once the "holy ****', i just busted a nut" feeling fades.
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It's your first time, so it's normal for you to feel this way. If you hooked up with another girl the following day, and another one the day after that, you wouldn't feel so 'attached' to this one.SexinEar said:Well, last night was the first time I sersly hooked up with a girl. A little late?, 16?, yea it is, but not too long ago I was wbafc. So anyway, I never really liked this girl, she was just my friend that hit on me. Eh well I went over her house and hooked up and cuddled with her for a while. Wow first time yay, but the problem is, I feel way too attracted to this girl now and I don't want to be, I feel like I have oneits, I woke up, feeling like sh!t, looking like sh!t, and beyond emotional. I'm lost, help.
Use some of that confidence you now have to meet other girls. Never, ever get 'to' attached to any 'one' girl.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
LMFAO>>> this is what just happened, the horrible oneitis feeling lasted a couple hours, you couldn't be more right.******* said:If she is no quality then count on the fact that you will come to your senses once the "holy ****', i just busted a nut" feeling fades.