"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Extraordinarily depressing scene from French movie
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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*Nightclubs in the US generally don’t play slow songs, but I understand it’s a French film.
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A guy who get screwed up like that will hardly be a productive law abiding citizen, we will be lucky if they will "retaliate" on society simply by not paying taxes...a columbine outcome is not far from reality if they find the wrong people online.
You probably realize that the discomfort many guys are expressing now is exponentially higher than only 10 years ago and it surely wont get better the following years.
Blue balls, a hurt ego and nothing to lose is not a mix that brings anything good on a society....guns will simply make it worse.
In my opinion the most dangerous thing is that those guy are no longer feeling like lonely losers, they now find others like them and they basically push each other into thinking that they have been wronged therefore entitled to revenge.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Yeah, I don't see anything about that guy that disqualifies him from getting laid. He's not deformed or anything. Maybe he won't be able to get that girl he has oneitis for, but boo hoo. You aren't entitled to everything you want. He may have psychological scars from his romantic feelings, and those can be hard to overcome, but they can be overcome. That "Oh well, it's not for you" attitude isn't going to get him anywhere.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Agreed. But men are more lenient/forgiving/generous appraisers of other men’s looks if we notice a guy struggling with women.
It’s easy for us to say that, “He looks ok.” It’s quite another matter to send the guy to the club (or wherever) and let women judge him.
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A more uplifting example of the assh0le vs nice guy, and how these situations usually play out in real life.