"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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inzone50

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Gf of over a year has been saying "I love you" a lot lately like 3 times a day.
She said it before, but usually around once a day. And she saying it first.

So... is she hinting at something?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DonGorgon

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ok now listen carefully.... you have her in that sweet spot... you have to maintain the challenge for her cause as soon as you get comfortable she will get board.... Make her work for your returned affections. always make her know you are special and she must cherish you... her love is like a plant that need water soil and sun..!!! DO NOT SIMP OUT.. let her stay one step ahead emotionally....
 

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Don is actually giving some great advice here. This is where most DJ's falter myself included. Keeping the spice alive and prevent it from getting bored. Pull back a little every once in a while. Go out and spend time with the guys.

Always be the prize. Don't make yourself available to her 24/7. However still show her affection, just don't shower her with it.

Keep us posted on the situation. I'm interested as I tend to be too available and emotional when I get involved in a relationship.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ughhh !
she is trying to trick you into saying it back before you are ready.
if you say it but you do not know if you mean it or not, get ready...
because she will already start planning out the rest of your lives.

do not let her trick you into being at her beg and call because you told her that you loved her back...
 

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Sort of sounds like shes testing you. She might want to see how attached you are by showing how attached she is. Just act as usual bro and enjoy the fact that she does love you.
 
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