"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Experienced DJ but needs relationship advice

NatiL

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I've got a girlfriend who loves me alot and great rapport etc. I've been damn alpha around her and when I emotionally withdraw it can even bring her to tears.

Great stuff, and makes me feel pretty secure. I'm definitely not in one-itis, I even got her to agree to "keep her ears closed" when I sleep with other girls if she's not around.

But, I found she flirted with a guy pretty hard.. someone we talked about having a threesome / foursome? with.. The guy is attractive but really not alpha, he's shy about going to clubs and dancing and all.

She said: 'dont get too drunk, or i'll take advantage of you'. I know she's attracted to him.

So.. how do I react? To me it seems really serious, for a relationship, but i'm worried punishing / withdrawing will just make her associate the negative feelings for me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What outcome would you like happen?
 

edmond

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Alpha male????????

How can you claim to be an Alpha male, when she is crapping all over you?:moon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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