"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Experienced DJ but needs relationship advice

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NatiL

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I've got a girlfriend who loves me alot and great rapport etc. I've been damn alpha around her and when I emotionally withdraw it can even bring her to tears.

Great stuff, and makes me feel pretty secure. I'm definitely not in one-itis, I even got her to agree to "keep her ears closed" when I sleep with other girls if she's not around.

But, I found she flirted with a guy pretty hard.. someone we talked about having a threesome / foursome? with.. The guy is attractive but really not alpha, he's shy about going to clubs and dancing and all.

She said: 'dont get too drunk, or i'll take advantage of you'. I know she's attracted to him.

So.. how do I react? To me it seems really serious, for a relationship, but i'm worried punishing / withdrawing will just make her associate the negative feelings for me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What outcome would you like happen?
 
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edmond

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Alpha male????????

How can you claim to be an Alpha male, when she is crapping all over you?:moon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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