She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yep, it comes across as much more pleasant. It depends alot on how the other person texts aswell. Sometimes people just write without exclamation marks and smiley, and you have to imagine what kind of expression she is using while texting.Her: Hi! How ya doing today?Wana hang out?
You: Doing great Thanks!... Yeah sure!
... whens a good time? Hows 7:30pm sound?
Vs
Her: Hi! How ya doing today? Wana hang out?
You: Doing great thanks. Yeah sure. Whens a good time? Hows 7:30pm sound?
Clearly the smiley version expresses greater pleasantries. (Edited cuz this forum didnt allow the emojis in that i had so i added ascii emotes)
Keep text to an absolute minimum and meet up in person.Does it matter? I sometimes use it to avoid coming off as too serious and more energetic. Do you think girls care?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
it doesnt my friend, it kills secsual tension.Clearly the smiley version expresses greater pleasantries.
Not in my experiences... *shrugs* but to each theor own.it doesnt my friend, it kills secsual tension.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wow. Took long to find someone who I can relate with. But overall I agree. At most I'll use the thumbs up but dont go use the smiley faces bullsh1t.Emojis are childish. It doesn't feel right to use them as a grown man.