You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yep, it comes across as much more pleasant. It depends alot on how the other person texts aswell. Sometimes people just write without exclamation marks and smiley, and you have to imagine what kind of expression she is using while texting.Her: Hi! How ya doing today?Wana hang out?
You: Doing great Thanks!... Yeah sure!
... whens a good time? Hows 7:30pm sound?
Vs
Her: Hi! How ya doing today? Wana hang out?
You: Doing great thanks. Yeah sure. Whens a good time? Hows 7:30pm sound?
Clearly the smiley version expresses greater pleasantries. (Edited cuz this forum didnt allow the emojis in that i had so i added ascii emotes)
Keep text to an absolute minimum and meet up in person.Does it matter? I sometimes use it to avoid coming off as too serious and more energetic. Do you think girls care?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
it doesnt my friend, it kills secsual tension.Clearly the smiley version expresses greater pleasantries.
Not in my experiences... *shrugs* but to each theor own.it doesnt my friend, it kills secsual tension.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Wow. Took long to find someone who I can relate with. But overall I agree. At most I'll use the thumbs up but dont go use the smiley faces bullsh1t.Emojis are childish. It doesn't feel right to use them as a grown man.