"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My ex just snapchatted me saying "answer my text ya jerk". I texted her half an hour later saying "what?" and she goes "how was your weekend?"

Should I even respond to this? Or continue ignoring her?

She always comes off as needy when I ignore her but as soon as I respond she hardly answers. But she still would say I love you when we hung out even though she was the one who broke up with me. Wtf kind of game is this? (and no I don't hang out with her anymore since I've smartened up)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kenpiffyjr

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You're in her frame. Until you learn to build a dominant frame, ignore her.
 

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why is she not blocked? BLOCK HER ON EVERYTHING. Delete her from you life and move on.

She wants attention- it's obvious. You are the idiot giving it to her. Wise up.
 

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My ex just snapchatted me saying "answer my text ya jerk". I texted her half an hour later saying "what?" and she goes "how was your weekend?"

Should I even respond to this? Or continue ignoring her?

She always comes off as needy when I ignore her but as soon as I respond she hardly answers. But she still would say I love you when we hung out even though she was the one who broke up with me. Wtf kind of game is this? (and no I don't hang out with her anymore since I've smartened up)
She has youbon a string. You're feeding her ego.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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why is she not blocked? BLOCK HER ON EVERYTHING. Delete her from you life and move on.

She wants attention- it's obvious. You are the idiot giving it to her. Wise up.
I know you're right. But I dont wanna burn a bridge with the potential of ****ing her again.
 

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she has sent about 4 more texts since then. the last asking if im alright >.>
 

emgehtow

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Im gonna take your advice and do just that. Its honestly really hard for me to do but you're right it has to be done.
 

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attitude... she has a negative one. Stay away.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dude99

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I know you're right. But I dont wanna burn a bridge with the potential of ****ing her again.
The odds on you ever ****ing her again are pretty much nil. I'd stop wasting my time on a dead end girl. She is looking for you to validate her and feed her ego. You are obliging by not wanting to burn the bridge. She knows this since she has you on a string and she will give the string a tug everytime she wants attention and to be entrtained and you most likely will never **** her again. Stop wastingyour time.
 

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I agree. its done now. I hope she has a fun time trying to contact me
 

Lozboss

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I agree. its done now. I hope she has a fun time trying to contact me
Stop caring at all.

I hope you have BLOCKED everything. That means phone/ social media/ whatsapp.
 

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Done and done. She is cut off, short of coming to my work or house theres no way to contact me. Thanks for being brutal with me guys
 
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