Is it ever OK to get back in touch with an ex after some years? It ended pretty badly 3 years ago. We grabbed coffee once since to catch up and it was fine, but we are not in contact. I might be in the same city for a little bit soon and I was wondering what you guys thought about checking in with her?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ex of 3 years
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
JohnyTheArrow
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Dignity > sex with ex
ChalengeGuyFan
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Getting back with an ex is like buying back your old car: same ride, same issues (probably more) and higher mileage.
Worth it ? You answer it.
Worth it ? You answer it.
ChalengeGuyFan
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Jokes aside, this is the jist of it.JohnyTheArrow said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Lozboss
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NEVER GO BACK
If you still have feelings for her after 3 years then I'd worry you need to sort that first.
If you still have feelings for her after 3 years then I'd worry you need to sort that first.
soulforge
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Well i am currently banging my ex, who i was seeing 3 years ago..
The sex is good, but to be honest its a step backwards.. and she will always be a liability.. i will be dropping my ex very soon.. its never really worth it
The sex is good, but to be honest its a step backwards.. and she will always be a liability.. i will be dropping my ex very soon.. its never really worth it
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SuckItUp
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The only time it's ok to go back to an ex is if the relationship ended for circumstances beyond either parties control and there wasn't acrimoy from either side. It's extremely rare for this to occur and even if those factors line up there's still a good chance that one of the parties has outgrown the other.
In your case the answer is no in terms of restarting the relationship.
In your case the answer is no in terms of restarting the relationship.