Is it ever OK to get back in touch with an ex after some years? It ended pretty badly 3 years ago. We grabbed coffee once since to catch up and it was fine, but we are not in contact. I might be in the same city for a little bit soon and I was wondering what you guys thought about checking in with her?
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
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Ex of 3 years
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
JohnyTheArrow
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Dignity > sex with ex
ChalengeGuyFan
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Getting back with an ex is like buying back your old car: same ride, same issues (probably more) and higher mileage.
Worth it ? You answer it.
Worth it ? You answer it.
ChalengeGuyFan
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Jokes aside, this is the jist of it.JohnyTheArrow said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Lozboss
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NEVER GO BACK
If you still have feelings for her after 3 years then I'd worry you need to sort that first.
If you still have feelings for her after 3 years then I'd worry you need to sort that first.
soulforge
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Well i am currently banging my ex, who i was seeing 3 years ago..
The sex is good, but to be honest its a step backwards.. and she will always be a liability.. i will be dropping my ex very soon.. its never really worth it
The sex is good, but to be honest its a step backwards.. and she will always be a liability.. i will be dropping my ex very soon.. its never really worth it
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SuckItUp
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The only time it's ok to go back to an ex is if the relationship ended for circumstances beyond either parties control and there wasn't acrimoy from either side. It's extremely rare for this to occur and even if those factors line up there's still a good chance that one of the parties has outgrown the other.
In your case the answer is no in terms of restarting the relationship.
In your case the answer is no in terms of restarting the relationship.