"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ex girlfriend says she saw us having sex in her dream...

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I was with this girl for a short time, about 3 months, back 7 years ago, but we kept in touch throughout all these years, I know her younger sister, brother, I even met her parents LOL but it's been a year or so we went out just once. Now she comes up with this...dream thing where she's seen us together in a dream and it was "quite intense" and "of all people I could be having sex with in a dream, why you LOL". So I invited her over and said "Hey, well let's make dreams reality now, shall we? :D ".

She haggled about it at first "I don't know, bla bla bla" and then said "I can't cause I am going out with someone else and that would ruin it". Now, what would you do and how would you read this situation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sounds like there's a good chance you're going to take her to pound town. She's rationalizing, won't be long before she's in your bed.
 
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She wouldn't have brought that up at all if she wasn't considering going through with it. Since she's your ex, you have some leverage. Just tell her you've been thinking about her too and let her know that it'll be a 1 time thing that will never be brought up again. Trust me I've banged multiple exes with new boyfriends. It's kinda sad.
 
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You'll need to nudge it further, she'll cave and fvck you but she needs possible deniability if things go wrong.

But you know this too.

You're just asking to confirm it.
 
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lizardking82 said:
So I invited her over and said "Hey, well let's make dreams reality now, shall we? :D ".

She haggled about it at first "I don't know, bla bla bla" and then said "I can't cause I am going out with someone else and that would ruin it". Now, what would you do and how would you read this situation?
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Send her this:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just tell her that you will keep it completely between the 2 of you.

If she doesnt agree then, go silent and wait her out. She may only be seeking validation.
 
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lizardking82 said:
I was with this girl for a short time, about 3 months, back 7 years ago, but we kept in touch throughout all these years, I know her younger sister, brother, I even met her parents LOL but it's been a year or so we went out just once. Now she comes up with this...dream thing where she's seen us together in a dream and it was "quite intense" and "of all people I could be having sex with in a dream, why you LOL". So I invited her over and said "Hey, well let's make dreams reality now, shall we? :D ".

She haggled about it at first "I don't know, bla bla bla" and then said "I can't cause I am going out with someone else and that would ruin it". Now, what would you do and how would you read this situation?
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Your response was too aggressive. Made her feel like sllut. I would have playfully teased her about it, talked about something non sexual for a bit and then invite her out for a drink. She wanted to bang you, you just have to give her a reason to think that she isn’t a slut. Drinks and then an invite back to your place after would have suffice. If she was interested she would follow, if she wanted attention she wouldn’t.
 
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