She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Some friends did some didn't. Guess I know who my true friends are.I don't see an issue with a current GF doing this if she has met the people in person first.
An ex, yeah, that's different.. ??.. The only thing that comes to mind is if she is trying to use your friends to get potential dirt and info on you.. Maybe she still likes you? And she is hoping to see some of your posts thru your friends. Or even talk to your friends about you and see if you have a new GF and what not.
I've had buddies who's current GFs have friended me. But the minute they break up I unfriend her, and block her, out of respect to him.. Would hope your buddies would see it the same way for you.
Like I said some friends instantly followed her back. Some friends ignored her friend requests. To be honest the ones that followed her back always give me a sense of jealousy when I'm doing good in life or dating hotter chicks and I can sense there joy when I went through rough times or heartbreaks. The ones that didn't add her back I have always had sence of trust and security with them.Your friends need to back off. Put the word out.
Been there, seen that.To be honest the ones that followed her back always give me a sense of jealousy when I'm doing good in life
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
TrueLet me guess. This chick is the only plate you had for the last couple of months. Cause if it wasn't, you wouldn't had spend time on checking her out about the friends she added or even make a thread about it.
That means you already know what you should do about it?True
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Start getting more plates?That means you already know what you should do about it?
Bingo. Now that theorically you know what to do,time to make it happen.Start getting more plates?