"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ex adds and follows my friends that she met because of me on social media
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
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An ex, yeah, that's different.. ??.. The only thing that comes to mind is if she is trying to use your friends to get potential dirt and info on you.. Maybe she still likes you? And she is hoping to see some of your posts thru your friends. Or even talk to your friends about you and see if you have a new GF and what not.
I've had buddies who's current GFs have friended me. But the minute they break up I unfriend her, and block her, out of respect to him.. Would hope your buddies would see it the same way for you.
Some friends did some didn't. Guess I know who my true friends are.
Like I said some friends instantly followed her back. Some friends ignored her friend requests. To be honest the ones that followed her back always give me a sense of jealousy when I'm doing good in life or dating hotter chicks and I can sense there joy when I went through rough times or heartbreaks. The ones that didn't add her back I have always had sence of trust and security with them.
logicallefty
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Been there, seen that.
With that said, it might be time for an intervention with your friends; know the ones who are true friends and kick the others to the curb. And the best way to handle that business is to just go NC with them and don't answer them if they reach out to you. After a while they will get the message. Remove them from social media too. Friends will come and go, even ones you have had for many years. And friends change too. A friend 5 years ago who would have given you 3 of his 4 limbs and the shirt on his back may be a toxic PoS now.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
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Who gives a sh*t?
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
That means you already know what you should do about it?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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NSX-R
Master Don Juan
Bingo. Now that theorically you know what to do,time to make it happen.
Have fun