"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ex adds and follows my friends that she met because of me on social media
- Thread starter GeoMan
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
logicallefty
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An ex, yeah, that's different.. ??.. The only thing that comes to mind is if she is trying to use your friends to get potential dirt and info on you.. Maybe she still likes you? And she is hoping to see some of your posts thru your friends. Or even talk to your friends about you and see if you have a new GF and what not.
I've had buddies who's current GFs have friended me. But the minute they break up I unfriend her, and block her, out of respect to him.. Would hope your buddies would see it the same way for you.
Some friends did some didn't. Guess I know who my true friends are.
Like I said some friends instantly followed her back. Some friends ignored her friend requests. To be honest the ones that followed her back always give me a sense of jealousy when I'm doing good in life or dating hotter chicks and I can sense there joy when I went through rough times or heartbreaks. The ones that didn't add her back I have always had sence of trust and security with them.
logicallefty
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Been there, seen that.
With that said, it might be time for an intervention with your friends; know the ones who are true friends and kick the others to the curb. And the best way to handle that business is to just go NC with them and don't answer them if they reach out to you. After a while they will get the message. Remove them from social media too. Friends will come and go, even ones you have had for many years. And friends change too. A friend 5 years ago who would have given you 3 of his 4 limbs and the shirt on his back may be a toxic PoS now.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
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Who gives a sh*t?
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
That means you already know what you should do about it?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SgtSplacker
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Start getting more plates?
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
Bingo. Now that theorically you know what to do,time to make it happen.
Have fun