Reyaj
Master Don Juan
My girlfriend tells me how much she loves me.... Do they have a 6th sense?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Everytime I'm in cheating form
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
More than 6...many more.Jayer said:
My guess is that she intuits or senses or observes that your mind is focussed elsewhere and her " ..Love ya " is her attempt at re-focussing your attention back on her.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
So this just reinforces the theory thats its good to get distant every so often to keep them working for your attention.
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Yes I would agree.
What women say they want and what actually need are paradoxical. Any guy who has been in a few LTRs knows that they only want more and more of your time, your attention, and your life (unless you get all clingy on her). What satisfies them today isn't necessarily going to satisfy them 3 months from now. The fact of the matter is, they get bored with a man who is predicable and always there for them. They really have this deep need for man who has other sh!t to care about besides them.
What women say they want and what actually need are paradoxical. Any guy who has been in a few LTRs knows that they only want more and more of your time, your attention, and your life (unless you get all clingy on her). What satisfies them today isn't necessarily going to satisfy them 3 months from now. The fact of the matter is, they get bored with a man who is predicable and always there for them. They really have this deep need for man who has other sh!t to care about besides them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.