niceguytoalphamale
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Hi, everyone including friends that I've had for a few years all say.. they don't know me? What does this mean?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Everyone says they don't know me?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
I don't really get it?
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Murk
Master Don Juan
Means you're a closed off loner, who may give people face time but lacks the social and/or emotional intelligence to really offer anything as a human being in regards to relationships.
I would join the army if I were you.
I would join the army if I were you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
Your right I'm really quiet and come and go.. i can't really offer any emotions in a relationship.. I'm so dead and cold inside.. so yes you're correct i believe
I went through a phase like that at one point in my life. But it was only because I was concentrating on myself. I did find it a little difficult to start actually contributing to the friendships I had but it's never a bad idea to start by buying rounds at the bar, or letting loose at concerts/sporting events. Actually work on making your friends feel better about themselves by complimenting them on their attire or their opinions on stuff. Be positive in general. Avoid bringing up negative things. People gravitate to people who make them feel good about themselves.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
Kinda personal but let's say i was abused sexualy at a young age.. I'm more like a female then a guy Ive been told.
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OP, have you seen a therapist to heal from this?
Also, I would suggest a local community support group to help you work through these issues with unconditional support.
There will be a lot of hurt and difficult emotions that will surface that you'll have to face head on that's buried and deep rooted in your subconscious.
To have a healthy fulfilling relationship with a significant other, and with others, in general, you'll need to heal from the childhood trauma.
Have a solid foundation in knowing who you are as a person and realize your self-worth. Never let anyone take that away from you.
Once you've made progress in your healing, you'll start to feel ready to trust others and be open to more and new experiences again so others can get to know you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Maybe you don't know yourself
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
That's right!!! I don't even know who i am!!