"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Everyone says they don't know me?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Means you're a closed off loner, who may give people face time but lacks the social and/or emotional intelligence to really offer anything as a human being in regards to relationships.

I would join the army if I were you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Murkserious said:
Means you're a closed off loner, who may give people face time but lacks the social and/or emotional intelligence to really offer anything as a human being in regards to relationships.

I would join the army if I were you.
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Your right I'm really quiet and come and go.. i can't really offer any emotions in a relationship.. I'm so dead and cold inside.. so yes you're correct i believe
 
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What are you running from? Have you suffered some kind of trauma in your upbringing?
 
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niceguytoalphamale said:
Your right I'm really quiet and come and go.. i can't really offer any emotions in a relationship.. I'm so dead and cold inside.. so yes you're correct i believe
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I went through a phase like that at one point in my life. But it was only because I was concentrating on myself. I did find it a little difficult to start actually contributing to the friendships I had but it's never a bad idea to start by buying rounds at the bar, or letting loose at concerts/sporting events. Actually work on making your friends feel better about themselves by complimenting them on their attire or their opinions on stuff. Be positive in general. Avoid bringing up negative things. People gravitate to people who make them feel good about themselves.
 
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niceguytoalphamale said:
Kinda personal but let's say i was abused sexualy at a young age.. I'm more like a female then a guy Ive been told.
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OP, have you seen a therapist to heal from this?

Also, I would suggest a local community support group to help you work through these issues with unconditional support.

There will be a lot of hurt and difficult emotions that will surface that you'll have to face head on that's buried and deep rooted in your subconscious.

To have a healthy fulfilling relationship with a significant other, and with others, in general, you'll need to heal from the childhood trauma.

Have a solid foundation in knowing who you are as a person and realize your self-worth. Never let anyone take that away from you.

Once you've made progress in your healing, you'll start to feel ready to trust others and be open to more and new experiences again so others can get to know you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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