"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Everyone says they don't know me?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Means you're a closed off loner, who may give people face time but lacks the social and/or emotional intelligence to really offer anything as a human being in regards to relationships.

I would join the army if I were you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Means you're a closed off loner, who may give people face time but lacks the social and/or emotional intelligence to really offer anything as a human being in regards to relationships.

I would join the army if I were you.
Your right I'm really quiet and come and go.. i can't really offer any emotions in a relationship.. I'm so dead and cold inside.. so yes you're correct i believe
 

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What are you running from? Have you suffered some kind of trauma in your upbringing?
 

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Your right I'm really quiet and come and go.. i can't really offer any emotions in a relationship.. I'm so dead and cold inside.. so yes you're correct i believe
I went through a phase like that at one point in my life. But it was only because I was concentrating on myself. I did find it a little difficult to start actually contributing to the friendships I had but it's never a bad idea to start by buying rounds at the bar, or letting loose at concerts/sporting events. Actually work on making your friends feel better about themselves by complimenting them on their attire or their opinions on stuff. Be positive in general. Avoid bringing up negative things. People gravitate to people who make them feel good about themselves.
 

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Kinda personal but let's say i was abused sexualy at a young age.. I'm more like a female then a guy Ive been told.
OP, have you seen a therapist to heal from this?

Also, I would suggest a local community support group to help you work through these issues with unconditional support.

There will be a lot of hurt and difficult emotions that will surface that you'll have to face head on that's buried and deep rooted in your subconscious.

To have a healthy fulfilling relationship with a significant other, and with others, in general, you'll need to heal from the childhood trauma.

Have a solid foundation in knowing who you are as a person and realize your self-worth. Never let anyone take that away from you.

Once you've made progress in your healing, you'll start to feel ready to trust others and be open to more and new experiences again so others can get to know you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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