I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've obviously never dated a bi-polar or histrionic chick. These woman tend to get violent, and sometimes physical force is the only way to handle them. Telling her to "pay you" isn't always going to work. How can you remain emotionally calm when a girl is screaming at you, disrespecting you (especially in front of other people), and/or swinging at you and do nothing about it? Anger is anger. If a man did this to you, you'd surely smash him in the face. It's the exact same thing. These woman will try to push you to that point, and some of them succeed. But in the end they love it. The abuse, the drama. They eat it up.Groovy said:NEVER. NEVER loose your cool. Unless you wanna put her in her place or something, more like a playful way, durning seduction, when you know she's gonna appreciate it and get horny, use dominance.Know what you are doing. If she's real angry just try to calm her like a REAL man. If you hit her make sure she's gonna respond positivley and not talk crap to you after you doing it! Make sure it's GOOD, not coming out of anger, do it for dominance and for her to like it too. In a playful way, always keep your happiness and cool. A real man has self esteem and doesn't get angry because of other people. You're in this situation anyways, wheater angry or not,s o why be angry? Be carful that she doesn't destroy your stuff or steals you money, that's your problem... But if she does it even so I wouldn't do anything to her, that's my problem, I would feel bad for her and tell her to pay me, but I can't imagine a scenario where it is okay to hit a woman... Spanking her durning sex HELL YES but that is very different.
I know my spelling is off, I'm gonna go to bed now, see you guys later and have fun!All lets be friends man and women!
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You deserve to be slapped for saying that.Groovy said:If you hit her make sure she's gonna respond positivley and not talk crap to you after you doing it! Make sure it's GOOD, not coming out of anger, do it for dominance and for her to like it too. In a playful way, always keep your happiness and cool. A real man has self esteem and doesn't get angry because of other people.
Not yet . .LB said:Does it count if I think it?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Да, конечно.Wiesman44 said:I smack my women around every week. You need to show them who's boss,and a good slap across the face reinforces that.
The reason for this is because on a subconscious level they want you to dominate them, shut hem up, and get physical with them and they don't even know it.Scars said:Regardless, I felt bad, and I WAS worried about her trying to get me in trouble for it but she never did. In fact, she loved me even more afterward. That's woman's logic for you.
-Scars
its funny you say that. My family ancestry is Ukranian. Obviously my above statement was a joke. But still ironic u said that.BigJimbo said:Да, конечно.
I knew I would finally find a real Ukrainian on this site! Привет, мой друг!!
Who gives a crap what they think? You are right!Ease said:You deserve to be slapped for saying that.
You've obviously never been with a crazy chick, and unfortunately never handled a woman properly!
Being a man has nothing to do with being calm. Being calm is clever, it is not masculine. No one is ever advocating losing your cool, but it happens...
Having said that, when you pull such a move, the idea is to take control by force, not ask for it. If you are worried that she will respond badly, then we call this being 'whipped'. Whether it is a strong word, raising your voice, or whatever else... her reaction will not be positive at once.
This is something you learn with time and experience. And dont give her a black eye, too noticable.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.