"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ever hit your woman?
- Thread starter Ease
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Besides sex and playing around, I've never hit a girl. And I don't think I ever would even if she deserved it.
Because the bottom line is, you have nothing to gain by hitting a woman and a lot to lose. No matter how much she deserved it, she will always be the victim and everybody loves to throw the book at "woman beaters."
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Scars
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Mixed reactions from everybody. There was one captain save-a-ho, of course. My closer friends just decided "it's none of my business, leave it a lone". Another said "You should of back handed that b!tch for disrespecting you like that.
Regardless, I felt bad, and I WAS worried about her trying to get me in trouble for it but she never did. In fact, she loved me even more afterward. That's woman's logic for you.
-Scars
Know what you are doing. If she's real angry just try to calm her like a REAL man. If you hit her make sure she's gonna respond positivley and not talk crap to you after you doing it! Make sure it's GOOD, not coming out of anger, do it for dominance and for her to like it too. In a playful way, always keep your happiness and cool. A real man has self esteem and doesn't get angry because of other people. You're in this situation anyways, wheater angry or not,s o why be angry? Be carful that she doesn't destroy your stuff or steals you money, that's your problem... But if she does it even so I wouldn't do anything to her, that's my problem, I would feel bad for her and tell her to pay me, but I can't imagine a scenario where it is okay to hit a woman... Spanking her durning sex HELL YES but that is very different.I know my spelling is off, I'm gonna go to bed now, see you guys later and have fun!
All lets be friends man and women!
Scars
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You've obviously never dated a bi-polar or histrionic chick. These woman tend to get violent, and sometimes physical force is the only way to handle them. Telling her to "pay you" isn't always going to work. How can you remain emotionally calm when a girl is screaming at you, disrespecting you (especially in front of other people), and/or swinging at you and do nothing about it? Anger is anger. If a man did this to you, you'd surely smash him in the face. It's the exact same thing. These woman will try to push you to that point, and some of them succeed. But in the end they love it. The abuse, the drama. They eat it up.Groovy said:NEVER. NEVER loose your cool. Unless you wanna put her in her place or something, more like a playful way, durning seduction, when you know she's gonna appreciate it and get horny, use dominance.
I know my spelling is off, I'm gonna go to bed now, see you guys later and have fun!
I'm not saying I advocate it. But I've seen plenty of situations where a girl definitely needed a good smack, and I've also been in a few myself but always restrained.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You deserve to be slapped for saying that.Groovy said:
You've obviously never been with a crazy chick, and unfortunately never handled a woman properly!
Being a man has nothing to do with being calm. Being calm is clever, it is not masculine. No one is ever advocating losing your cool, but it happens...
Having said that, when you pull such a move, the idea is to take control by force, not ask for it. If you are worried that she will respond badly, then we call this being 'whipped'. Whether it is a strong word, raising your voice, or whatever else... her reaction will not be positive at once.
This is something you learn with time and experience. And dont give her a black eye, too noticable.
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Not yet . .LB said:
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Me and her bestfriend were downstairs like wtf just happend, then we heard banging, she was punching the wood off my bed and breaking it. So I went upstairs and she was on the phone to her brother, out of nowhere, she started crying and made up some story on how her brother just randomly rang her to ask why their uncle died, and because I didn't seem sympathetic and went back downstairs, she chased me down the stairs and around the house, as I was laughing, because she was blatently DRUNK.
So after a while, I stopped in my tracks, put jokes aside, and she launched at me. Broke my living room door window and was hysterical. My parents were on holiday at the time, becaus she would've never did that if they were in. I shook her up abit, near enough put my fist through her face, so close to doing it. Anyway, there was no make-up sex that night. I slept downstairs with her friend, she doesn't know that till this day.
johnca2010
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Just get out of the situation and get with some other broad. If you really do have anger problems, however, then that's a completely different story and you should seek out some support/help before you hurt yourself and others.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The reason for this is because on a subconscious level they want you to dominate them, shut hem up, and get physical with them and they don't even know it.Scars said:
They push your buttons as far as they can to see you snap and walk away with your head down. But if you have the balls to shut them up with either a little slap, a good ol fashioned yelling, grabbing of the arms or whatever that is what turns them on. It's that spontaneous rush of masculine energy coming out of you to discipline them, dominate them, show them you're a man that's no to be f*** with.
It's sort of the same subconscious feeling they get around bad boys and jerks. On a subconscious level they love men that are more alpha, aggressive, dominant but on a conscious level women don't know what they want and can't seem to tell why they keep dating men that are jerks over and over again even though they claim they want a nice guy.
I'm not advocating hiting a woman, but like Sean Connery says you sometimes have to smack a b|tch!
Who gives a crap what they think? You are right!Ease said:
Think about this: Do you want her to hate you? It's better then being ignored. But it will make a bunch of other problems for you too. Girls talk with eachother about many things. This won't affect your self esteem one bit. You'll still be happy and confident and relaxed... But think about it, if you loose your cool, some people are gonna think you are a freak and will dislike you. Who cares, you say? I agree. However, it will be harder for you to do certain things. Life is easier when you don't have enemies and when people dig you.
Make friends not enemies! You NEVER hit a woman. You defend yourself, not more. Try to calm her. Why do you want to bring violence in your life? (Same goes to insults. Waste of energy, and it will bite you later.) Self defense is different tho... And there are a few exceptions. Like if she won't leave your house and you got to study, you must find a way to make her leave, preferably without she being mad at you after. Being a DJ is better then being a Jerk, woman will be more attracted to you! Remember that guy named Pook? In the end, remember, the most important person is YOU.
What matters most is how you feel. Doesn't matter if others like you or not, but contribute to a peacful envorment when you can. Avoid making enemies. Kinda like that one saying: "If you like me fine, if you don't, that's fine too". Just because you don't care if others like you or not, it doesn't mean that it won't bring you benefits is they DO like you.
Gunwitch wrote: "You aren't looking for trouble, but you aren't going to avoid it either less its REAL dangerous."
Read this:http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=56331
By the way, always remember that anger makes your immune system weaker, and a bunch of other problems to your body. It will make you not feel so relaxed, concentration will be worse, sleeping patters changed... Not to mention, it feels BAD! So don't forget to laugh sometimes.
(PS: Sources needed).better to fire the b**** than smack some sense into her because women CANT HANDLE being forgotten.... it short-circuits their brain.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.