You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've obviously never dated a bi-polar or histrionic chick. These woman tend to get violent, and sometimes physical force is the only way to handle them. Telling her to "pay you" isn't always going to work. How can you remain emotionally calm when a girl is screaming at you, disrespecting you (especially in front of other people), and/or swinging at you and do nothing about it? Anger is anger. If a man did this to you, you'd surely smash him in the face. It's the exact same thing. These woman will try to push you to that point, and some of them succeed. But in the end they love it. The abuse, the drama. They eat it up.Groovy said:NEVER. NEVER loose your cool. Unless you wanna put her in her place or something, more like a playful way, durning seduction, when you know she's gonna appreciate it and get horny, use dominance.Know what you are doing. If she's real angry just try to calm her like a REAL man. If you hit her make sure she's gonna respond positivley and not talk crap to you after you doing it! Make sure it's GOOD, not coming out of anger, do it for dominance and for her to like it too. In a playful way, always keep your happiness and cool. A real man has self esteem and doesn't get angry because of other people. You're in this situation anyways, wheater angry or not,s o why be angry? Be carful that she doesn't destroy your stuff or steals you money, that's your problem... But if she does it even so I wouldn't do anything to her, that's my problem, I would feel bad for her and tell her to pay me, but I can't imagine a scenario where it is okay to hit a woman... Spanking her durning sex HELL YES but that is very different.
I know my spelling is off, I'm gonna go to bed now, see you guys later and have fun!All lets be friends man and women!
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You deserve to be slapped for saying that.Groovy said:If you hit her make sure she's gonna respond positivley and not talk crap to you after you doing it! Make sure it's GOOD, not coming out of anger, do it for dominance and for her to like it too. In a playful way, always keep your happiness and cool. A real man has self esteem and doesn't get angry because of other people.
Not yet . .LB said:Does it count if I think it?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Да, конечно.Wiesman44 said:I smack my women around every week. You need to show them who's boss,and a good slap across the face reinforces that.
The reason for this is because on a subconscious level they want you to dominate them, shut hem up, and get physical with them and they don't even know it.Scars said:Regardless, I felt bad, and I WAS worried about her trying to get me in trouble for it but she never did. In fact, she loved me even more afterward. That's woman's logic for you.
-Scars
its funny you say that. My family ancestry is Ukranian. Obviously my above statement was a joke. But still ironic u said that.BigJimbo said:Да, конечно.
I knew I would finally find a real Ukrainian on this site! Привет, мой друг!!
Who gives a crap what they think? You are right!Ease said:You deserve to be slapped for saying that.
You've obviously never been with a crazy chick, and unfortunately never handled a woman properly!
Being a man has nothing to do with being calm. Being calm is clever, it is not masculine. No one is ever advocating losing your cool, but it happens...
Having said that, when you pull such a move, the idea is to take control by force, not ask for it. If you are worried that she will respond badly, then we call this being 'whipped'. Whether it is a strong word, raising your voice, or whatever else... her reaction will not be positive at once.
This is something you learn with time and experience. And dont give her a black eye, too noticable.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.