Ever go so good online and then go sour in person?

[BigFoot]

The best thing to do is not waste your time with online "dating"
in the first place !

 

[Keeper]

Mmm... online interaction is fun in it's own way. I see nothing wrong with meeting girls you met off IRC or wheverever.

However, what is sad is if you chat to ONE girl, constantly, exclusively, and literally fall in love with her online. Thats a def .

So if you're into the online thing, chat to lots of people - meet LOTS of girls. And get on the fone and dates with 'em asap.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BigFoot
The best thing to do is not waste your time with online "dating"
in the first place !

It didn't work for you, huh?

 

[S0LID]

Online is one of the best ways to meet girls IMO. The easiest way is to be in the same place at the same time, preferably a club. Then you see them there just be really smily give a big hug and and say hi, hows your night been, where you bn tonight, fluff talk for a bit. Then say nice talking to you, enjoy your night shake her hand and hold on as u walk so her arm slightly stretches then let go. 2-3 kino touches and ur showing serious confidence. dont forget to smile I a club I just act full on enjoying dancing with my mates. Next time online ask to meet properly in a clubs the following week or something. It's the way Im now meeting a podium dancer next time i hit the clubs

 

[BigFoot]

It didn't work for you, huh?

No, it did not work for me. Attractive women don't need to use online "dating",
and that fact was well supported by my experience.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BigFoot
No, it did not work for me. Attractive women don't need to use online "dating",
and that fact was well supported by my experience.

Good thing everyone can have different experiences, isn't it?

 

[BigFoot]

True Fran, we probably live in different worlds, but where I hail from I know absolutely noone who has found anyone online (the few people who actually tried it).
Around here, the attractive women have no need for it and I honestly can't imagine any of them doing that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BigFoot
True Fran, we probably live in different worlds, but where I hail from I know absolutely noone who has found anyone online (the few people who actually tried it).
Around here, the attractive women have no need for it and I honestly can't imagine any of them doing that.

Check it out.

http://www.match.com/profile/showpr...IBNV1i2L4hi+MQNzQvgV/w==&Handle=getfit12&DO=0

http://www.match.com/profile/showpr...rUuW2+GnwL5qeKVyVzirA==&Handle=MzTakenMD&DO=0

http://www.match.com/profile/showpr...ER0h0QsUc0p4uDffwg==&Handle=powderfun101&DO=0

And that was just in Billings.

 

[BigFoot]

I'm guessing you work for Match.com or are otherwise compensated by them.
Nevertheless, the attractive women I know have no problem attracting men and have no motivation whatsoever to use Match.com. I can't say it any simpler. And remember, I'm not saying unattractive
women don't use Match. com - they do ! If they happen to look good, they probably have alot of "issues", which makes them unattractive anyway .

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by BigFoot
I'm guessing you work for Match.com or are otherwise compensated by them.
Nevertheless, the attractive women I know have no problem attracting men and have no motivation whatsoever to use Match.com. I can't say it any simpler. And remember, I'm not saying unattractive
women don't use Match. com - they do ! If if they happen to look good, they probably have alot of "issues", which makes them unattractive anyway .

Not quite, I just get $10 for every person that clicks on any link that I post.

Guess what BigFoot, I bet you can't find any woman that doesn't have any issues. Come on, how many excuses are there for not trusting women? And don't blame it on women online, they are they same women that you meet on the street.

 

[arlanda]

Any advice on how do I bridge the gap between online-me and realworld-me?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by arlanda
Any advice on how do I bridge the gap between online-me and realworld-me?

Suggest that she meets you someplace so that you may get to know one another. Yes, it's just that simple. It's best done early on before you become her penpal.

 

[arlanda]

Right. Well, I am not from the U.S and here where I live the Internet dating thing is thought to be for "loosers" only My take on this is : Why would I limit myself to clubs/college/whatever only?

Anyway, most girls there are afraid that you might be some pervert (and yes, there are many sickos out there)

So chicks even have problem giving you their phone number But in the end it's all about their interest level, so you don't need to tell me that

The real problem here is, I can by ****y as hell online but in the real world I still have some problems "being myself". Taking her to some place I know really well helps.

Duh, I guess I just need more experience in talking with REAL girls

 

[Reyaj]

Ok nobody here has answered my question..... A Real DJ would be able to make a good attempt at this. I don't want to hear any responses like move on, or give up, or don't meet girls online.... The fact is I am a DJ, I have hooked up with other girls in the time I was talking to her. I do however want to see what I can get with tihs girl....

So like I said, her interest level definitely did drop. She doesn't send me as much messages anymore, and doesn't talk to me as long anymore because she calls her other guy friend (some guy that she says is into her but she only views as a friend)

But she does want to hang out with me again... she has mentioned it a few times without me even mentioning anything....

The problem is I called her out for the Kino she was doing on me the last time we went out. This was the kino that led me to try and kiss her at the end of our date.

She seems confused... sometimes she gives me the friend vibe... sometimes she gives me the more than friend vibe....


We are supposed to have dinner because I won a bet, so she said she is going to pay....

What do I do? Act like a friend or try and kiss her again at the end of the date.

I am feeling like acting like a friend because maybe I can at least have a friend to use as social proof in the future.

But need advice... I know there's a little door open of hope here if I can play it right....

Real DJ's don't give up, and at least make a decent attempt. I want to hear from them!

 

[Reyaj]

Thats what I thought...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Jayer
Real DJ's don't give up, and at least make a decent attempt. I want to hear from them!

Real DJs don't try to create good situations out of bad ones. The create good ones from the start. They also know when their efforts are best spent on other women.

 

[griffon65]

Well theres still something there, not much but you can certainly try. I've had girls telling me they dont want anything but a friendship because they have a bf to being all over me the next week so its possible.

If you have been showing her disinterest after shes told you that she think of you as a friend/has other guys that want to date her then thats good. When you hang out with her give her mixed signals, act like your interested but then say something that makes it seem otherwise. For example: flirt with her and then when she asks something like "so what did you do this week" say something like "oh I hung out with my friend molly." She'll know what you mean. This shows your not hung up over her and have other options. Dont try to kiss her unless its obvious that she really wants you.

Basically if she wasnt turned off by ur looks after seeing you in person and you didnt have MAJOR personality changes from online to real life you may have a chance.

 

[Reyaj]

grifton you are younger than me but thanks for the advice!!!

I guess I shouldn't give her a lame kiss good night if I hang out with her again right? I know the friendship zone is bad but I think it may be the best place to start with tihs girl!

I mean she seems scared when guys are too forward (based on past experiences)

I guess my biggest problem is I don't know how to act when I hang out wit her. Your mixed signal advice may be good though!

Should I try and kiss her, or just keep it friendly?

 

[Iamnotacrook]

Quite contrary to this thread's subject, I find that I'm often misinterpreted online. I guess when I say something with two meanings, they usually pick the one they perceive to be negative. Not so with deliberate speech.

 

[undesputable]

Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
What many people don't understand about online dating is that your online persona has to be congruent with who you are in person.

excatly...thats why i try to stay off the internet now...Im just so good talking online now that i just dont match myself in person.