"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ethics of a Don Juan

lebRambo

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hello all.

I would like to turn the topic today to something we don't hear much about: the Ethical code that a Don Juan should/does live his life by.

We are always hearing about how to get laid: subtle manuevers, tactical secrets, C&F, etc. However, what we sometimes neglect is whether such mind games can be ethically justifiable when, for the most part, they are used as levergae just to get some sex.

I am not tying to preach, for I really don't know what the general consensus is. I am not yet at the stage where I can lay down a set of rules for myself, and prmise myself on my honour that I will abide by those rules.

So, my like-minded friends: What ethical guidelines, if any, should a Don Juan always observe, and is there anything that is not to be used in the hunt for sex, LTRs, etc. ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

HereToImprove

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My view is that its us men trying to gain back the power that should rightfully be ours. Society has dictated that the initial stages of a sexually-inspired male/female interaction is one of the few times in life when a woman clearly holds power over a man.

DJing is the means by which we regain this power and place ourselves in the natural hierarchy of things as men. Like many powers, you can use it for good or evil, or many things in between. After all, a simple knife can be used to cut bread, or stab someone to death.

No matter how you use it, you will be in control once again, and the mastery of self control is one of the great goals in life we should all be striving for.
 

lebRambo

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you have stated the purpose, the end goal of playing the game as it were, but have neglected to mention if anything should be off limits to this endeavour.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Personaly, I don't think that there is or should be a code of ethics or morality for DJs. However, I think there may a specific purpose of a DJ.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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