"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ethics of a Don Juan

lebRambo

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hello all.

I would like to turn the topic today to something we don't hear much about: the Ethical code that a Don Juan should/does live his life by.

We are always hearing about how to get laid: subtle manuevers, tactical secrets, C&F, etc. However, what we sometimes neglect is whether such mind games can be ethically justifiable when, for the most part, they are used as levergae just to get some sex.

I am not tying to preach, for I really don't know what the general consensus is. I am not yet at the stage where I can lay down a set of rules for myself, and prmise myself on my honour that I will abide by those rules.

So, my like-minded friends: What ethical guidelines, if any, should a Don Juan always observe, and is there anything that is not to be used in the hunt for sex, LTRs, etc. ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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HereToImprove

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My view is that its us men trying to gain back the power that should rightfully be ours. Society has dictated that the initial stages of a sexually-inspired male/female interaction is one of the few times in life when a woman clearly holds power over a man.

DJing is the means by which we regain this power and place ourselves in the natural hierarchy of things as men. Like many powers, you can use it for good or evil, or many things in between. After all, a simple knife can be used to cut bread, or stab someone to death.

No matter how you use it, you will be in control once again, and the mastery of self control is one of the great goals in life we should all be striving for.
 

lebRambo

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you have stated the purpose, the end goal of playing the game as it were, but have neglected to mention if anything should be off limits to this endeavour.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Personaly, I don't think that there is or should be a code of ethics or morality for DJs. However, I think there may a specific purpose of a DJ.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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