"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ethics of a Don Juan

lebRambo

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hello all.

I would like to turn the topic today to something we don't hear much about: the Ethical code that a Don Juan should/does live his life by.

We are always hearing about how to get laid: subtle manuevers, tactical secrets, C&F, etc. However, what we sometimes neglect is whether such mind games can be ethically justifiable when, for the most part, they are used as levergae just to get some sex.

I am not tying to preach, for I really don't know what the general consensus is. I am not yet at the stage where I can lay down a set of rules for myself, and prmise myself on my honour that I will abide by those rules.

So, my like-minded friends: What ethical guidelines, if any, should a Don Juan always observe, and is there anything that is not to be used in the hunt for sex, LTRs, etc. ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HereToImprove

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My view is that its us men trying to gain back the power that should rightfully be ours. Society has dictated that the initial stages of a sexually-inspired male/female interaction is one of the few times in life when a woman clearly holds power over a man.

DJing is the means by which we regain this power and place ourselves in the natural hierarchy of things as men. Like many powers, you can use it for good or evil, or many things in between. After all, a simple knife can be used to cut bread, or stab someone to death.

No matter how you use it, you will be in control once again, and the mastery of self control is one of the great goals in life we should all be striving for.
 

lebRambo

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you have stated the purpose, the end goal of playing the game as it were, but have neglected to mention if anything should be off limits to this endeavour.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Personaly, I don't think that there is or should be a code of ethics or morality for DJs. However, I think there may a specific purpose of a DJ.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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