Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Holla homeys it's been almost two months since I been here...anyways I've stopped coming here because, well I don't know.but I just stopped.But I now I need advice, today I lost my Virginity!(props to David X and you guys ofcourse)...but it kinda sucked for me,..i last like 5 mins tops.Then we chilled in bed, after about 30 mins, she wanted round two...Guess what? My **** didnt wana get strong..it was semi erect,a real softie, couldn't get it in,maybe I was anxious or something...but this has happened to me for the 2nd time...Its starting to bug me as im jus 17 years old, I should be able to get it up in an instant! We ended up not having another round because of this..So I want to know what causes this? Is it anxiety? Is it watching porn? What the hell causes it? Damnit I should be happy right now!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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it will get better, many guys suffer from Anxiety, some *** waaaaay too soon, some cant get it up etc.
 
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I would say cause you're 17 and it's your first time (I was 17 my first time), it's DEFINITELY anxiety.

This is why it's so easy to get a hard-on watching porn. No one to impress. I bet you if a hot, buck-naked, chick with legs up to her neck walked in on one of us beatin' our meat to some goat porn, most of us would be pretty hard-pressed not to lose our hard on.

Be happy that she wanted to try again. Let her know it was your first time. Doesn't mean you have to be a p*ssy about it and get touchy feely. Just say "I need some practice, baby. Give a brotha a hand."
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sh*t man, please tell me you were using condoms every time all the time... I don't care if you go limp or whatever, there's some scary sh*t out there waiting to shrivel your nuts.

Anyway, the biggest thing you can do is have more sex. It's a new realm you're entering (literally and figuratively), and you need experience. Get the experience, and you'll be alright.
 
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Don't worry, I used a condom everytime,all the time,my parents would kill me I impragnated a girl.Thanks man...this girl was a virgin too so, it took me like two hours to finally get it in, not as rock hard I wanted it to be.Thanks man,atleast now I can throw away thoughts of gettin me some viagra.
 
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It's anxiety. I'm guessing you don't have a problem getting hard when watching porn? If that's the case, then there's no physiological reason as to why you can't get hard and it's due to anxiety. It's not an unusual problem. The first couple times I got laid, I had a hard time keeping it up too. But you'll learn to relax and you'll get over it.

As said earlier in this thread, it's one thing when you're beating off in your room watching porn. It's another thing when you have to please a girl, you have last a long time etc. The pressure of the situation can get to you.

Try to relax, and forget about pleasing her initially. Just focus on enjoying the moment. Once you're more comfortable, you can start thinking about it from her perspective a little more.
 
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Certain foods, and a general healthy diet can and will help in that department. I agree that in your case, its anxiety but its something to remember for the future.

It may sound silly, but foods have amazing properties, and some really do affect libido.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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next time, get her to masturbate you, no intercourse, just get used to her getting used to your ****, lick/kiss her/ finger her, dot rush it, it will literally...come! just a bit of anxiety dear boy
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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your 17 ffs!

dont get hung up about it, never mind diet etc.. just get comfortable with yourself and her, dont get hung up about performing, there IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU
 
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