"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Holla homeys it's been almost two months since I been here...anyways I've stopped coming here because, well I don't know.but I just stopped.But I now I need advice, today I lost my Virginity!(props to David X and you guys ofcourse)...but it kinda sucked for me,..i last like 5 mins tops.Then we chilled in bed, after about 30 mins, she wanted round two...Guess what? My **** didnt wana get strong..it was semi erect,a real softie, couldn't get it in,maybe I was anxious or something...but this has happened to me for the 2nd time...Its starting to bug me as im jus 17 years old, I should be able to get it up in an instant! We ended up not having another round because of this..So I want to know what causes this? Is it anxiety? Is it watching porn? What the hell causes it? Damnit I should be happy right now!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it will get better, many guys suffer from Anxiety, some *** waaaaay too soon, some cant get it up etc.
 
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I would say cause you're 17 and it's your first time (I was 17 my first time), it's DEFINITELY anxiety.

This is why it's so easy to get a hard-on watching porn. No one to impress. I bet you if a hot, buck-naked, chick with legs up to her neck walked in on one of us beatin' our meat to some goat porn, most of us would be pretty hard-pressed not to lose our hard on.

Be happy that she wanted to try again. Let her know it was your first time. Doesn't mean you have to be a p*ssy about it and get touchy feely. Just say "I need some practice, baby. Give a brotha a hand."
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sh*t man, please tell me you were using condoms every time all the time... I don't care if you go limp or whatever, there's some scary sh*t out there waiting to shrivel your nuts.

Anyway, the biggest thing you can do is have more sex. It's a new realm you're entering (literally and figuratively), and you need experience. Get the experience, and you'll be alright.
 
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Don't worry, I used a condom everytime,all the time,my parents would kill me I impragnated a girl.Thanks man...this girl was a virgin too so, it took me like two hours to finally get it in, not as rock hard I wanted it to be.Thanks man,atleast now I can throw away thoughts of gettin me some viagra.
 
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It's anxiety. I'm guessing you don't have a problem getting hard when watching porn? If that's the case, then there's no physiological reason as to why you can't get hard and it's due to anxiety. It's not an unusual problem. The first couple times I got laid, I had a hard time keeping it up too. But you'll learn to relax and you'll get over it.

As said earlier in this thread, it's one thing when you're beating off in your room watching porn. It's another thing when you have to please a girl, you have last a long time etc. The pressure of the situation can get to you.

Try to relax, and forget about pleasing her initially. Just focus on enjoying the moment. Once you're more comfortable, you can start thinking about it from her perspective a little more.
 
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Certain foods, and a general healthy diet can and will help in that department. I agree that in your case, its anxiety but its something to remember for the future.

It may sound silly, but foods have amazing properties, and some really do affect libido.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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next time, get her to masturbate you, no intercourse, just get used to her getting used to your ****, lick/kiss her/ finger her, dot rush it, it will literally...come! just a bit of anxiety dear boy
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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your 17 ffs!

dont get hung up about it, never mind diet etc.. just get comfortable with yourself and her, dont get hung up about performing, there IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU
 
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