"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It is likely high. The set up is intrinsically extremely stressful.
So first thing first is to try to decrease it if possible...that pushes you to eat more than necessary and crave junk.

I can tell you that when I get supplements that lower cortisol my craving for sweets and choccolate strongly decreases.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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**Cortisol Reduction Action Plan:**

1. **Manage Stress:**
- Practice deep breathing exercises.
- Meditate for at least 10 minutes daily.
- Attend a yoga class weekly.

2. **Exercise Regularly:**
- Aim for 30 minutes of moderate exercise, like brisk walking, most days of the week.

3. **Healthy Eating:**
- Include fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains in your diet.
- Reduce sugar and processed food intake.

4. **Improve Sleep:**
- Establish a regular sleep schedule.
- Create a relaxing bedtime routine.

5. **Stay Hydrated:**
- Drink at least 8 glasses of water per day.

6. **Limit Caffeine and Alcohol:**
- Reduce coffee to 1-2 cups per day.
- Limit alcohol consumption to the recommended guidelines.

7. **Foster Social Connections:**
- Schedule regular meet-ups with friends or family.
- Participate in community activities or clubs.

8. **Practice Mindfulness and Hobbies:**
- Allocate time for hobbies you enjoy.
- Practice mindfulness activities like journaling or gardening.
 
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You’re likely in stage IV adrenal failure. How’s your blood pressure?
 

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**Cortisol Reduction Action Plan:**

1. **Manage Stress:**
- Practice deep breathing exercises.
- Meditate for at least 10 minutes daily.
- Attend a yoga class weekly.

2. **Exercise Regularly:**
- Aim for 30 minutes of moderate exercise, like brisk walking, most days of the week.

3. **Healthy Eating:**
- Include fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains in your diet.
- Reduce sugar and processed food intake.

4. **Improve Sleep:**
- Establish a regular sleep schedule.
- Create a relaxing bedtime routine.

5. **Stay Hydrated:**
- Drink at least 8 glasses of water per day.

6. **Limit Caffeine and Alcohol:**
- Reduce coffee to 1-2 cups per day.
- Limit alcohol consumption to the recommended guidelines.

7. **Foster Social Connections:**
- Schedule regular meet-ups with friends or family.
- Participate in community activities or clubs.

8. **Practice Mindfulness and Hobbies:**
- Allocate time for hobbies you enjoy.
- Practice mindfulness activities like journaling or gardening.
Good list and let's add

-get rid of toxic people, cut contact as if they were mosquitos wheter they are family or acquitances...zero tolerance regardless
 

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Did I miss something? How are you determining this?
It’s easy to go into it. Most people in stressful situations are in some level of adrenal failure. Given his self described issues I’d posit he is.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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is it Adrenal Failure or Adrenal Fatigue?
Or is "failure" a misnomer in this instance?
Fatigue is initial and if that is not rectified it turns into failure after a period of time...technically it's still called Fatigue but the stage name is "Burnout"
 

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is it Adrenal Failure or Adrenal Fatigue?
Or is "failure" a misnomer in this instance?
Depending on your choice of terms. I've always seen it referred to as a stage of failure.
 

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I've been struggling with this lately as I try and reduce all the dopamine fixes as I stopped drinking. My brain and body are casting around trying to find dopamine fixes to latch onto. Food can be an enormous cope.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I know, that's why I was pointing it out.

I'm not sure why everyone is writing out these long posts giving detailed information when OP isn't doing any work himself.
I mean I'm not that far from my goal weight and I dropped 11 pounds this month down to 175 lbs.

OP dropped 10 lbs in a year at like 40% bodyfat. That's literally doing almost nothing.
 

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You have to want it enough to be in 100% reconstruction mode at all times.
Corrector, it's been a year since your first post. ( I was Jimwho) This was my quote from back then, I wish we could
get this to take hold of your mindset. No more procrastinating allowed, get into it, go after it, start now!
 

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I'm trying to curb my emotional eating but it's really difficult.

I thought there supposed to be food shortgages coming in the new year, so I bought a bunch of crackers and what not. Nothing happened yet, and some events at home precipated me to start eating this food and now I'm over 40% bf. Healthy chips, crackers (whole wheat) and arrowroot buiscuits.

Planning to see a doctor next week but don't want to disclose too much information as to the emotional triggers to eating this type of foods, etc...

Has anyone have this problem before? How did you deal with emotional eating?
Man i got the same issue. I dont smoke cigs or drink after work. I eat. It makes me feel good. If i did not workout alot I would be Homer Simpson belly.
 

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Weight is really near 250 lbs. Despite going to a buffet, eating two boxes of Graham crackers, and having high-protein foods, and a Borito, over the course of the month so far, the net effect is the weight is maintaining itself or going lower. This is because these those diet cheats are isolated to one day here or there, but the vast majority of the time, I'm eating very healthy, portion control and limited exercise so the system is able to absorb those things without any significant weight-gain.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Weight is really near 250 lbs. Despite going to a buffet, eating two boxes of Graham crackers, and having high-protein foods, and a Borito, over the course of the month so far, the net effect is the weight is maintaining itself or going lower. This is because these those diet cheats are isolated to one day here or there, but the vast majority of the time, I'm eating very healthy, portion control and limited exercise so the system is able to absorb those things without any significant weight-gain.
Add some more exercise, do the 100 push up challenge. Several times a day get down as do as many pushups as you can, even if it’s five. As lon as between wake up and bed down you hit 100 you’re good, in a weeks time you’ll be able to do more and more at each attempt.
 

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Gonna own my own bs here. 30 days without alcohol as of tomorrow. Emotional eating has definitely been a problem this past month as I seek other dopamine sources.

Been lifting more regularly lately at least (cold weather time of year always a hassle).

Time to refocus the diet because it's pissing me off to feel like crap from eating crap.
 

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Fasting helps, 3-4 days no food to recalibrate, give your gut a rest, shrink stomach, reduces all cravings, does wonders. Even 36 hours if you can’t do more has massive benefits.
 

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It's one of the main reasons why I prefer Pure Carnivore (been off it due to trashy eating lately). I'm definitely staying away from OMAD though. Even trying to do Intermittent Fasting right now makes it difficult. I think I work best as I get back into proper, calibrated eating as the sugar cravings die by just spacing my meals every 3-4 hours.

Two of my favorite carnivore-based benefits is resting the gut and reduced inflammation. My cravings are VERY different when sugar and carbs are in the picture.
 

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Emotional eating will keep you stuck in a narrow weight range for years. Discipline and stringing as many reasonably successful days together as possible with solid processes to fall back to when you cheat is what it takes. Pot - kettle for me lately but it's true. Emotional eating is the fox that sneaks in the hen house each night as you lie to yourself that you're doing good in a given week. It can erase solid weeks of effort very quickly if you don't monitor it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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