Email response

[luv 2 fly]

Ok so I've been emailing this girl a few times & now @ the end of her last email she askes me "Tell me what do you like and don’t like in women."

What's the best way to respond to this?

Thanks!!

 

[mrRuckus]

I'd change the subject and lead the conversation to where i want it to go rather than letting myself fall into that trap where she's looking for something to disqualify you.

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

I'd change the subject and lead the conversation to where i want it to go rather than letting myself fall into that trap where she's looking for something to disqualify you.

Exactly. It's like filling out a job application. And, it indicates that I look up to her as the prize.

Plus, I think email/text is a very bad way to communicate because there isn't any way to see her real reactions to the talk.

Like I could say "well, I like a woman who acts like a lady" and women will react wildly different. One girl could take it as "he's romantic" and another will remember her last boyfriend saying that and "acts like a lady" equals "letting loose while dancing with other girls/guys present will cause an extreme blowout when we get home because he's a control freak". The man will never know how she reacted if he's not there to see her go positive or negative. The way women "feel" words and phrases and interpret them is extremely different from how men process them. A man hearing "acts like a gentleman" will think about opening doors and stuff like that which is completely different than how a woman processes "acts like a lady".

I just DO and DON'T say (directly). Figuring out what I like/dislike about people/girls on her own gives her a puzzle which causes increased interest and increased excitement. Every direct answer removes more mystery as well as lowering her excitement and interest.

 

[luv 2 fly]

ok well after this email I was going to ask for her phone number. Should I pretend to forget what she asked & just ask for her #?

& if she does mention this again. What's the best way to avoid answering the question?

 

[luv 2 fly]

is this also a sh!t test???

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

ok well after this email I was going to ask for her phone number. Should I pretend to forget what she asked & just ask for her #?

& if she does mention this again. What's the best way to avoid answering the question?

Just ignore it. It didn't happen. That'll get her more curious and interested. Type a new email instead of quoting the old one.

Just get her phone number. If (when) she asks again just briefly say "I've always liked girls who can juggle bowling pins" or any other of an unlimited number of things that will put a funny picture in her mind. She'll laugh and her interest/attraction WILL increase. Don't go overboard and write paragraphs like that. Looking like you have too much time to spare and writing long witty "answers" to her will make her think you don't have a life. Just keep it short.

Take time answering emails. Never ever let her get the impression you're sitting at your computer waiting for her emails. You're out doing mysterious stuff right?

is this also a sh!t test???

Not at all. She's a woman, she's curious, and most importantly, she's curious about you. Women very rarely randomly ask men questions like that, especiallly ones about YOUR LIKES/DISLIKES. If you answer those types of questions too easily, she has nothing to daydream about what you're like.

Also, she wants to chase but at the same tie she'll sabotage things by trying to look for reasons to NOT like you and protect herself. And, it's easy to misread what you say when it's just text. If you're being ****y/funny with "bowling pin jugglers" or whatever, it can't be misread. You're elusive, funny, and there isn't any real meaning attached to your non-answer-answer. DON'T ENGAGE HER LOGIC CIRCUITS!

She wants to spend her time at home thinking "does he/doesn't he like me, what can I do to get him interested, does he like if I'm {whatever}" etc... She wants to spend her time WORKING to get answers. For every answer she gets, she needs at least one more mystery added. That's how soap operas attract women and keep them interested over even decades (important concept!). The women are forced to contemplate over a period of time what will possibly happen or what she'll find out. And, just as she gets one answer, another couple of mysteries start immediately.

She absolutely DOESN'T really want to read text that explains it all. Then her interest in you will drop very fast and interest in some other guy who IS mysterious and lets her daydream will rise (relatively) and she'll drop you to chase him.

 

[mrRuckus]

I've never had a problem writing long, witty emails. It's completely amped up the attraction a NUMBER of times. It might suck if you're just not that funny in writing, but my entire MO is decent length FUNNY emails... at least when I do online dating.

It's never been a problem just basically ignoring any questions i don't feel like answering. Serious questions and answers in emails should be infrequent.

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

I've never had a problem writing long, witty emails. It's completely amped up the attraction a NUMBER of times. It might suck if you're just not that funny in writing, but my entire MO is decent length FUNNY emails... at least when I do online dating.

It's never been a problem just basically ignoring any questions i don't feel like answering. Serious questions and answers in emails should be infrequent.

Oh, very true, I do that as well on occasion.

I should have noted that I was meaning that advice to someone who wasn't sure about answering questions and new enough to this to ask if he should go for a number. I just didn't want him to trip up on something before he even got a chance to go on a date. That's far too common I've noticed just in the short time I've been here.

Once he's got enough experience, he can pretty much wing it based on the vibe he's getting from any particular woman.

 

[luv 2 fly]

Thanks guys for the advise. I'm just going to ask for number & take it from there.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Wow, why are you guys so stupid...
Just answer her question and let her qualify herself to you.

I've done this to women before, through email; I ask them what they look for in men. They answer, and ask me the same back.

This isn't a shyt test, it's a direct question, and SHE WANTS TO BE QUALIFIED.
If she wanted to disqualify you, she wouldn't have emailed you back, period.

Getting the number is always a good plan...be like "oh no, we're gonna talk about THAT over the phone what's your #?"

 

[f283000]

Try doing the opposite of what you think you should do. For example someone earlier mentioned "i want a woman that is lady like." Women expect this sort of replies. You need to be original to stand out from every other guy out there and be prepared to shock her

hb: What do you look for in a woman?
hero: I want a woman that makes a good sandwish and will give me foot massages on command.
or
hero: I want a woman that makes a good sandwish and will give me blow jobs on command like a sexy robot. (got it from peter chao, funny response but you having the guts to say it will get a good laugh out of her and disarm her question/sh** test she is trying to pull). If done right it will definitely create attraction.

 

[ENIGMA16]

"What do you like in a woman?"

"A ton of booze and me, in that order."