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Don Juan
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im thinking of getting my ear pierced, anyone have expereince with this? which ear? stud or ring?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I use to think the same thing until I got both of my ears pierced and I can honestly say I should have done it a long time ago. It adds something to you overall look that's just make you stand out more than you would without them.KillaCam said:I know many people who have done it. And I hate to say it, but ear piercings look kinda..fruity.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'll trust you on that. I'm sure on the right person is can look good, just don't over feminize yourselfFaded Image said:I use to think the same thing until I got both of my ears pierced and I can honestly say I should have done it a long time ago. It adds something to you overall look that's just make you stand out more than you would without them.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i enlisted in the reserves, but during my spare time i would like a earring, thats all. if i get it pierced now, and goes off in a month, would the dirty environment cause an infection easily?doctoroxygen said:I don't support gun piercing because the people who do them aren't trained body piercers. They just point the gun at your ear in a rough approximation of where you want the earring, pull the trigger, and hope for the best as the jewelry smashes through your flesh... Needle piercing is comparatively clean, and the piercing heals much cleaner. It's also a rush to feel the needle going through your ear.
Bootcamp as in military bootcamp? You probably shouldn't get a piercing at all, if that's the case.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.