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Don Juan
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im thinking of getting my ear pierced, anyone have expereince with this? which ear? stud or ring?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I use to think the same thing until I got both of my ears pierced and I can honestly say I should have done it a long time ago. It adds something to you overall look that's just make you stand out more than you would without them.KillaCam said:I know many people who have done it. And I hate to say it, but ear piercings look kinda..fruity.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I'll trust you on that. I'm sure on the right person is can look good, just don't over feminize yourselfFaded Image said:I use to think the same thing until I got both of my ears pierced and I can honestly say I should have done it a long time ago. It adds something to you overall look that's just make you stand out more than you would without them.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
i enlisted in the reserves, but during my spare time i would like a earring, thats all. if i get it pierced now, and goes off in a month, would the dirty environment cause an infection easily?doctoroxygen said:I don't support gun piercing because the people who do them aren't trained body piercers. They just point the gun at your ear in a rough approximation of where you want the earring, pull the trigger, and hope for the best as the jewelry smashes through your flesh... Needle piercing is comparatively clean, and the piercing heals much cleaner. It's also a rush to feel the needle going through your ear.
Bootcamp as in military bootcamp? You probably shouldn't get a piercing at all, if that's the case.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.