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Don Juan
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im thinking of getting my ear pierced, anyone have expereince with this? which ear? stud or ring?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I use to think the same thing until I got both of my ears pierced and I can honestly say I should have done it a long time ago. It adds something to you overall look that's just make you stand out more than you would without them.KillaCam said:I know many people who have done it. And I hate to say it, but ear piercings look kinda..fruity.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'll trust you on that. I'm sure on the right person is can look good, just don't over feminize yourselfFaded Image said:I use to think the same thing until I got both of my ears pierced and I can honestly say I should have done it a long time ago. It adds something to you overall look that's just make you stand out more than you would without them.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i enlisted in the reserves, but during my spare time i would like a earring, thats all. if i get it pierced now, and goes off in a month, would the dirty environment cause an infection easily?doctoroxygen said:I don't support gun piercing because the people who do them aren't trained body piercers. They just point the gun at your ear in a rough approximation of where you want the earring, pull the trigger, and hope for the best as the jewelry smashes through your flesh... Needle piercing is comparatively clean, and the piercing heals much cleaner. It's also a rush to feel the needle going through your ear.
Bootcamp as in military bootcamp? You probably shouldn't get a piercing at all, if that's the case.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.