doctoroxygen
Master Don Juan
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Dwyane Wade is definitely a DJ.
NBA Finals, anyone?
NBA Finals, anyone?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Who cares?doctoroxygen said:Dwyane Wade is definitely a DJ.
NBA Finals, anyone?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ok, dude.brucevangeorge said:Who cares?
I've gained at least 15lbs of muscle mass. I've gotten way more comfortable with public speaking as I am now a tour guide (job). I have gotten over my oneitis from highschool. Very, very far away.doctoroxygen said:Ok, dude.
What are you doing here? You've been a member for almost a year now; what have you accomplished in that time?
Thanks for the unsolicited advice.brucevangeorge said:STOP WASTING TIME ON THIS CRAP.
Watching a game is okay. Fantasizing about one of the players is not.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HAHAdoctoroxygen said:Thanks for the unsolicited advice.
Here's some from me: Try to eradicate the MASSIVE QUALIFYING, and you'll be set.
Wasn't around in 1972 & 3...doctoroxygen said:Dolphins!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
doctoroxygen said:Culpepper should be good for you, though. I love Miami teams, despite my location as far from Miami as is possible in the contiguous United States.
I was just thinking that.doctoroxygen said:Here's some from me: Try to eradicate the MASSIVE QUALIFYING, and you'll be set.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.